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HELP! A friend asked me if she can live with me, how do I nicely tell her no???

Anonymous
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A friend of mine has been fighting on & off with her boyfriend and she recently asked if she can temporarily move in with me along with her 2 y/o son. It's worth mentioning that she is a very negative person, always complaining about life, I have my own problems & although I want to be there for her and am, I can only listen to it for so long before it starts wearing me down & effecting my attitude. She is also currently unemployed/looking for work. 

I want to tell her NO for a couple of reasons (other than already mentioned above):

1.) My house has no available rooms & no she can not just use the living room.

2.) I don't think I could trust her around my husband, as she has a history of flaunting herself and sleeping around (sounds harsh but true, her own admission).  

3.) We are finally out of the terrible two's/toddler stage and I really don't want to be babysitting someone else's full time in my home, not to mention I like what little sleep I do get! 

Those are the main reasons but honestly I just don't like the idea of roommates when I have my own family to worry about. If she was absolutely desperate and had no other option then of course I wouldn't send her off to live in a shelter or the street, but I know she has family that would take her in, I know it's not ideal for her but it's better than nothing. 

How do I nicely tell her no without offending her??? 


Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:39 PM
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jcrenshawswifey
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:41 PM

I'd say "No. Not no...but HELL NO!" I'm a meanie like that though. You don't NEED to give her a reason.

imakehimscream
by He screams on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:41 PM
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Tell her you have no room and its not a good time right now. Tell her to try again in 10 years when she grows up
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:41 PM

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kngarber
by Katie on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:43 PM
Been there done that, but I said yes. Nightmare. Just tell her no.
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Quoting imakehimscream:

Tell her you have no room and its not a good time right now. Tell her to try again in 10 years when she grows up

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Shermy
by Platinum Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:44 PM
You don't even need a long list of reasons to say no. Just say "No, I am sorry"
Mrs.Bryant1201
by Platinum Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:44 PM
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"Wish we could help, but we do not have the space. Maybe call a shelter?"

imakehimscream
by He screams on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:44 PM
Thank you :)


Quoting MrsWhite101610:

I like the screen name =)




Quoting imakehimscream:

Tell her you have no room and its not a good time right now. Tell her to try again in 10 years when she grows up


Miss_Sheila
by Bronze Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:44 PM
Sorry girl but i dont have extra room and if my landlord finds out i have extra people here they will hire my rent
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 24, 2013 at 5:44 PM
Tell her no for the reasons you told us. Well except for number 2.
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