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Your spouse doesnt remember you...

Posted by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:06 PM
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Lets say you are in your 60s/70s. Your spouse has dementia and does not remember you. Would you start dating again? Or stay faithful even though they do not know they are married to you.

I ask because
1.) SO's grandmother began dating (her husband died around...2006?2007?) a man last year. His wife is in a home and has dementia and doesnt remember him at all. He goes and visits her and then goes to SO's grandmothers house and stays there.

2.) On a contrast to that, a friend of mine works in a different home. Same situation, except the wife is 'dating'. She doesnt remember her husband, but remembers she has a boyfriend (who is also in the home lol). He says its heartbreaking because the husband leaves in tears everyday upset because she talks about her boyfriend.


So if it were you would you start dating again?
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:06 PM
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MalakbelLacuna
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:06 PM
I cant say.
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jojo_star
by on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:07 PM

Stay faithful. 

hotmama83227
by Silver Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:07 PM

idk? i would probably stay faithful. thats so heart breaking though

Thelmama
by Ruby Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:08 PM
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No, I would not. I promised to stick by him in sickness and health.  I love him and always will.

 I saw the 2nd scenario on Grey's anatomy, LOL. Sorry that is what it made me think of. The lady doesn't know she is married to her dh, she can' t help it. I feel for his pain.

HistoryNutty
by Ruby Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:09 PM
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I'd start dating my husband again.
FoodIsLife
by Silver Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:09 PM

We'd seperate. This has already been a discussion we've had.

Bigmetalchicken
by Ruby Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:09 PM

Dementia is a foregone conclusion with my husband. I will never date another person. It may hurt if he got a home girlfriend, but I can't be angry at him for not remembering me.

celestegood
by Ruby Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:09 PM
I don't know. I have seen both situations happen, and it's hard.
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ninjakids
by Christina on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:10 PM
Is it? My friend said it was more common than you would think, i dont watch G.A. though so i wouldnt have saw it lol

Quoting Thelmama:

No, I would not. I promised to stick by him in sickness and health.  I love him and always will.

 I saw the 2nd scenario on Grey's anatomy, LOL. Sorry that is what it made me think of. The lady doesn't know she is married to her dh, she can' t help it. I feel for his pain.

hautemama83
by Emerald Member on Apr. 24, 2013 at 9:10 PM
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No I wouldn't. honestly at that point in my life dating would be farthest from my mind. At least I would think it would be. 

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