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Chemical Pregnancy...... Really?

Posted by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:45 PM
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Today i have learned something new - Chemical Pregnancy 

I have had 3 babies and 5 pregnancies - never have heard this term 

I have mixed feelings about this --- this is a pregnancy that never implants --- so was it ever honestly a pregnancy?  

Can we assume women have been experiencing these for many many years (since time began) but never had to grieve over the loss or disappointment because we had no clue it was even happening????  

Did this term come about because the pregnancy tests became early detection and doctors had to call it something..... but has now resulted in so many now called miscarriages?  before we knew this it was simply getting your period.... right? 

Are you happier knowing each month that you lost a potential life.... or did it have the potential?? -- are the odds honestly like 1 in 5 fertilizations become viable?  and again we just never knew.... seriously --- are we better off with this new stage of pregnancy??? 

i am sorry but i find this to be cruel and i don't like seeing my friends get false hope or suffer a feeling of loss because science is butting into mother natures court!!!!! 

i honestly and truly ache deeply for all you women that are faced with this.... 


but on the up side early signs of issues can get you to a specialist to resolve what could be a honest infertility.... but again ..... what if we all typically have a few of these or more before we do get pregnant.... it WAS the norm and we had no clue..... but now... we know it as a loss and it puts into a state of depression that then does create an issue with conception....  


torn --- good or bad --- Chemical Pregnancy --- would you rather just not know????

SterlingHeart

"these ramblings courtesy of a mom over 40"

by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:45 PM
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t1gger143
by Platinum Member on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:47 PM
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Had one and bleed really bad for 3 days. I don't think you have the same attachment as an actual miscarriage.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:48 PM
I had a chemical pregnancy. It has to implant or you won't get a positive test, you just miscarry very soon after. I was told that if I hadn't been testing as early as I had been, I would have mistaken it for a late period. I began bleeding days after I got 2 positive pregnancy tests. It was my 3rd loss.
SterlingHeart
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:49 PM

so you view this differently than an honest miscarriage?  At what point do you think the attachment forms?  Or do you think once you hear the term chemical you kinda resign yourself to know - wasn't meant to be????

Quoting t1gger143:

Had one and bleed really bad for 3 days. I don't think you have the same attachment as an actual miscarriage.


SterlingHeart

"these ramblings courtesy of a mom over 40"

SterlingHeart
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:51 PM

so wait i am confused your saying it has to implant to get a positive test // then you say had you not tested so early to see the positive you would have mistaken for a period -- so did it or didn't it implant -- would yours have been a real miscariage then?  Since it came up positive? 

i am sorry for you loss sweetie... 

Quoting Anonymous:

I had a chemical pregnancy. It has to implant or you won't get a positive test, you just miscarry very soon after. I was told that if I hadn't been testing as early as I had been, I would have mistaken it for a late period. I began bleeding days after I got 2 positive pregnancy tests. It was my 3rd loss.


SterlingHeart

"these ramblings courtesy of a mom over 40"

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:53 PM
I have had one. It's a slap in the face to be called that crap.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:56 PM
It implants, you get a positive test, and you begin bleeding very soon after. You don't produce the hormone that a pregnancy test picks up unless the fertilized egg implants. Any loss before 5 weeks gestational age is considered a "chemical pregnancy". I knew it was possible that I was pregnant because we were trying, so I started testing around 10 days past ovulation. Had I waited until my period was due or a few days late to test, I wouldn't have needed to, I was already bleeding by then.

Quoting SterlingHeart:

so wait i am confused your saying it has to implant to get a positive test // then you say had you not tested so early to see the positive you would have mistaken for a period -- so did it or didn't it implant -- would yours have been a real miscariage then?  Since it came up positive? 

i am sorry for you loss sweetie... 

Quoting Anonymous:

I had a chemical pregnancy. It has to implant or you won't get a positive test, you just miscarry very soon after. I was told that if I hadn't been testing as early as I had been, I would have mistaken it for a late period. I began bleeding days after I got 2 positive pregnancy tests. It was my 3rd loss.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:57 PM
I have had a chemical and two losses, one at 21 weeks and one at 14 weeks. I wasn't affected by the chemical pregnancy, I know some women are though. My 14 week loss made me sad, the baby passed at 12 weeks and I knew it was going to happen since 9 weeks. I wasnt as bad as i was the first time. My 21 week loss was my first loss and it affected me a lot.
SterlingHeart
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 3:57 PM

your saying your offended by that term?  did you feel it lessened the importance or magnitude of your loss?  

how far along were you?  

should it have been called a failed implantation?  or something other than any word with the word pregnancy?  

Quoting Anonymous:

I have had one. It's a slap in the face to be called that crap.


SterlingHeart

"these ramblings courtesy of a mom over 40"

SterlingHeart
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 4:00 PM

i am not trying to upset you --- but see --- what you just discribed before this early pregnancy crap came along --- would have just been a period -- no loss 

again i think it is cruel 

Quoting Anonymous:

It implants, you get a positive test, and you begin bleeding very soon after. You don't produce the hormone that a pregnancy test picks up unless the fertilized egg implants. Any loss before 5 weeks gestational age is considered a "chemical pregnancy". I knew it was possible that I was pregnant because we were trying, so I started testing around 10 days past ovulation. Had I waited until my period was due or a few days late to test, I wouldn't have needed to, I was already bleeding by then.

Quoting SterlingHeart:

so wait i am confused your saying it has to implant to get a positive test // then you say had you not tested so early to see the positive you would have mistaken for a period -- so did it or didn't it implant -- would yours have been a real miscariage then?  Since it came up positive? 

i am sorry for you loss sweetie... 

Quoting Anonymous:

I had a chemical pregnancy. It has to implant or you won't get a positive test, you just miscarry very soon after. I was told that if I hadn't been testing as early as I had been, I would have mistaken it for a late period. I began bleeding days after I got 2 positive pregnancy tests. It was my 3rd loss.



SterlingHeart

"these ramblings courtesy of a mom over 40"

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 25, 2013 at 4:00 PM
I was 5 weeks and 4 days. I still bled and passed clots and cramped like crazy! I was so depressed. It did make it feel insignificant it being called a chemical pregnancy but having it called an abortion is worse.

Quoting SterlingHeart:

your saying your offended by that term?  did you feel it lessened the importance or magnitude of your loss?  

how far along were you?  

should it have been called a failed implantation?  or something other than any word with the word pregnancy?  

Quoting Anonymous:

I have had one. It's a slap in the face to be called that crap.


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