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Tonight I was talking to my husband about getting our kids more involved with my culture. I want them to go to more of the classes that is offered to us I want my son to take part in the drumming and dancing and my daughter the dancing. Tomorrow their is a powwow that my family and I are going to I ask my husband if he would like to come with us this time he says no as always he has prob only been to a few out of the whole time we have been together. I told him this coming fall I want the kids to start getting more involved in my culture and he said that they are enrolled members that should be enough of involvement, I told him it isn't fair that they are more involved in his culture and not mine, they speak his language , my son is I'm a Spanish immersion school my daughter goes to preschool that's like that, they take part in any special holidays or whatever things he has going on in his culture I just dont get why that's the only part of them he wants them to know these kids arent full blooded Mexican.
by on Apr. 27, 2013 at 12:56 AM
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selena2006
by on Apr. 27, 2013 at 1:52 AM
I could just enroll them but he is the type of person if its not what he wants or if its not his way then its going to be a big hassle


Also he think his mire important becuz he is the man and the kids are more of that man is then the woman Atlest that's what he thinks.


Quoting Anonymous:Is there any reason you couldn't enroll them in the classes & get them involved without your husband? The kids have the right to know who they are, where they came from, & ALL parts of their culture. Does your husband have any issues with your culture? Or does he just think his is the only important one b/c he's the man? Quoting selena2006:I teach them lots of things and so does my family but their are classes I want them to take I want them to become involved.


Quoting jazzgirl205:Talk it up with the kids.  Make them want to do those things.  Do you tell them stories of your culture?  Do you talk about your grandmother and how she lived?  Do you do any of the art assoc with your culture? Do you sing them the songs? When dd was little, the Creek Indians kinda adopted her.  She's now 15 and can weave hunting bags, stomp dance, and can throw an axe with amazing precision.  That's without effort from dh and I.  We just let our friends hang out and she asked questions.

selena2006
by on Apr. 27, 2013 at 1:57 AM
I have told him before if he isn't willing to let our kids take part in ky culture I wanted them to change school and preschool he just laughed and said I wouldn't do that to them.


Quoting LiliM:

Discussing it would have been good...but it's not some unforgivable sin. 

The kids are one half of each of you...therefore, there are two heritages at work here.  I would tell him since he is not interested in promoting mine, I would.  ANd if he interferes, rather than lets me as I let our kids go to immersion schools, my willingness to go along with that would be up for debate.

Good luck.  I don;t get one parent attempting to negate the other, blatantly or passively, as it seems he is doing here.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 27, 2013 at 2:06 AM

Sounds like he's got a bit too much of that machismo thing. I think I'd have to sit him down & give him a piece of my mind, explain to him that they get exactly half their DNA from the man & exactly half their DNA from the woman. If anything they are more the woman than the man b/c they grow & develop in the woman before birth &, for some they are fed from the woman's body after birth for a time. After that, I'd tell him that MY culture is every bit as important as his & that they WILL take the classes & become more involved in MY culture whether he likes it or not b/c my culture is also THEIR culture & they have a right to know it & be involved in it. I would then enroll them in classes & start getting them involved in my culture. My DH was born & raised in Mexico, so I understand how Mexican men can be. 

Quoting selena2006:

I could just enroll them but he is the type of person if its not what he wants or if its not his way then its going to be a big hassle


Also he think his mire important becuz he is the man and the kids are more of that man is then the woman Atlest that's what he thinks.


Quoting Anonymous:Is there any reason you couldn't enroll them in the classes & get them involved without your husband? The kids have the right to know who they are, where they came from, & ALL parts of their culture. Does your husband have any issues with your culture? Or does he just think his is the only important one b/c he's the man? Quoting selena2006:I teach them lots of things and so does my family but their are classes I want them to take I want them to become involved.


Quoting jazzgirl205:Talk it up with the kids.  Make them want to do those things.  Do you tell them stories of your culture?  Do you talk about your grandmother and how she lived?  Do you do any of the art assoc with your culture? Do you sing them the songs? When dd was little, the Creek Indians kinda adopted her.  She's now 15 and can weave hunting bags, stomp dance, and can throw an axe with amazing precision.  That's without effort from dh and I.  We just let our friends hang out and she asked questions.


SageAdvice
by on Apr. 27, 2013 at 2:42 AM

And if all else fails, go native on his ass !!

                             


                    It's funny, When you say illegal immigrants, I think of you.

selena2006
by on Apr. 27, 2013 at 10:47 AM
Lol he got a heck of a lot of the machismo going on. But yea I think its time and Stanford for myself and stand my ground when it comes to my culture.


Quoting Anonymous:

Sounds like he's got a bit too much of that machismo thing. I think I'd have to sit him down & give him a piece of my mind, explain to him that they get exactly half their DNA from the man & exactly half their DNA from the woman. If anything they are more the woman than the man b/c they grow & develop in the woman before birth &, for some they are fed from the woman's body after birth for a time. After that, I'd tell him that MY culture is every bit as important as his & that they WILL take the classes & become more involved in MY culture whether he likes it or not b/c my culture is also THEIR culture & they have a right to know it & be involved in it. I would then enroll them in classes & start getting them involved in my culture. My DH was born & raised in Mexico, so I understand how Mexican men can be. 

Quoting selena2006:

I could just enroll them but he is the type of person if its not what he wants or if its not his way then its going to be a big hassle





Also he think his mire important becuz he is the man and the kids are more of that man is then the woman Atlest that's what he thinks.





Quoting Anonymous:Is there any reason you couldn't enroll them in the classes & get them involved without your husband? The kids have the right to know who they are, where they came from, & ALL parts of their culture. Does your husband have any issues with your culture? Or does he just think his is the only important one b/c he's the man? Quoting selena2006:I teach them lots of things and so does my family but their are classes I want them to take I want them to become involved.





Quoting jazzgirl205:Talk it up with the kids.  Make them want to do those things.  Do you tell them stories of your culture?  Do you talk about your grandmother and how she lived?  Do you do any of the art assoc with your culture? Do you sing them the songs? When dd was little, the Creek Indians kinda adopted her.  She's now 15 and can weave hunting bags, stomp dance, and can throw an axe with amazing precision.  That's without effort from dh and I.  We just let our friends hang out and she asked questions.





selena2006
by on Apr. 27, 2013 at 10:49 AM
Lol just might have to.


Quoting SageAdvice:

And if all else fails, go native on his ass !!


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