All of this happened yesterday. SS is 16 years old, I have been his step mom for 4 years, he has anger problems so we have to keep a close eye on him when he is over which is every other weekend. He has been in consoling and it has gotten better but he still lashes out now and again. It is very stressful because I have 3 kids of my own but because of how we are worried about SS's anger, my ex was willing to switch weekends with me so that he has the kids when SS is over.
Since he has gotten better I guess we have let our guard down a bit. Yesterday, I passed by SS's room and I saw that it was pretty messy and he had dishes piled up. I told him to bring the dishes down to the kitchen and to clean up his room. He isn't supposed to have food in his room but I pick my battles with him, I was going to tell DH when he got home so that he could just remind him not to keep food in his room. Dh went into work early that morning and was to be home by noon, this all happened just before 11
He got really mad because I asked him to clean his room, he started slamming things around and so I headed downstairs with the intent to call DH. He followed me downstairs with his dishes and said "hurry up fatty" I am 7 months pregnant. So he tried to pass me but because he was mad and being careless he ended up pushing me down. I fell down 5 steps. I called 911 right away because I wasn't sure whether I had peed myself or my water had broken. They came and got me and the police came because I told them what had happened. The took SS away. I called DH too and DH met me at the hospital. All I told him was that I feel down the stairs because, at that point, I didn't give a damn where SS was. By the time DH came the doctor confirmed that I had just peed myself (thank God) and that the baby was fine (again, thank God) though the doctor told me she did want me to take it easy for the next few days and come in on Monday just to make sure everything is still fine.
I told DH about what his son had done and that the police had taken him away. that point, DH's called his ex and she said that she was just called to come pick SS up because he had assaulted a pregnant woman (me). I didn't ask the police to take him away or anything but they did. We don't know much more right now but it looks like SS will be tried in juvenile court.
I don't know exactly what is going to happen but I have told DH that he will not come in our home again.
Dh hasn't said much of anything to me about it but I almost feel like he is blaming me. I can't explain it because he hasn't said anything, it's just how he has been to me.
WOW, let me first say that this post has gotten way more replies then I thought. Thank you for the well wishes and kind words. For those who think I am just out to get SS, I am not sure what part of my post makes you feel that way but if that was what I was doing, I would have said he couldn't come over when he started threatening my kids instead of switching the visits so my kids wouldn't be here when he wasn't here.
Some have gotten a little confused about whether or not this was an accident. I was he was careless and angry and that is what caused this. Not cause him shouldering me, that was on purpose but because he was angry and not controlling his temper, he shouldered me so hard that it pushed me down the stairs.
Anyway, on to the update
I went to the OB this morning. They did a more in depth ultrasound, the person in the hospital who does it is not a trained OB ultrasound tech, they know enough to see that the baby is still alive and that the placenta is still attached.The ultrasound showed that a small part of the placenta has started to detach. Therefore, I have been put on restricted activity which includes no sex until the baby is born. Basically, I can do small amounts of housework in between lots of sitting around until baby comes and I am 30 weeks right now so between 6-10 weeks.
We got out of the OBs office to find DH had 9 missed called and 4 voice-mails. In between lots of threats and cussing from BM and SS (some were from SS voice-mails were from BM) they said that SS will be charged with the assault of a pregnant woman and may well do time in juvenile detention. They said that the only way SS will not be charged is if I go and say that he did not shove me or even touch me intentionally and that he just accidentally bumped me and I lost my footing and fell. I will not do that because that's not what happened, he may or may not have meant to make me fall, I don't know but I do know that he meant to shoulder shove me knowing we were on the stairs and that I am 7 months pregnant.
Maybe making him face the consequences on his own will help him, maybe not but I am not going to lie for him, especially after I found out today how close I came to losing this baby over his temper tantrum.
Dh agrees that until I feel comfortable with having him over he shouldn't be. He will take him out and they will do stuff together and he is going to try to work it out with BM that he can take him for a couple hours a few times a week since he is not taking him every other weekend. As far as me lying for SS, he says that DH is torn. He wants to protect his son but he understands that I am not willing to lie to get him out of trouble since after what he did, he should be in trouble.