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The police took SS away UPDATE IN PINK

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All of this happened yesterday. SS is 16 years old, I have been his step mom for 4 years, he has anger problems so we have to keep a close eye on him when he is over which is every other weekend. He has been in consoling and it has gotten better but he still lashes out now and again. It is very stressful because I have 3 kids of my own but because of how we are worried about SS's anger, my ex was willing to switch weekends with me so that he has the kids when SS is over.

Since he has gotten better I guess we have let our guard down a bit. Yesterday, I passed by SS's room and I saw that it was pretty messy and he had dishes piled up. I told him to bring the dishes down to the kitchen and to clean up his room. He isn't supposed to have food in his room but I pick my battles with him, I was going to tell DH when he got home so that he could just remind him not to keep food in his room. Dh went into work early that morning and was to be home by noon, this all happened just before 11

He got really mad because I asked him to clean his room, he started slamming things around and so I headed downstairs with the intent to call DH. He followed me downstairs with his dishes and said "hurry up fatty" I am 7 months pregnant. So he tried to pass me but because he was mad and being careless he ended up pushing me down. I fell down 5 steps. I called 911 right away because I wasn't sure whether I had peed myself or my water had broken. They came and got me and the police came because I told them what had happened. The took SS away. I called DH too and DH met me at the hospital. All I told him  was that I feel down the stairs because, at that point, I didn't give a damn where SS was. By the time DH came the doctor confirmed that I had just peed myself (thank God) and that the baby was fine (again, thank God) though the doctor told me she did want me to take it easy for the next few days and come in  on Monday just to make sure everything is still fine.

I told DH about what his son had done and that the police had taken him away. that point, DH's called his ex and she said that she was just called to come pick SS up because he had assaulted a pregnant woman (me). I didn't ask the police to take  him away or anything but they did. We don't know much more right now but it looks like SS will be tried in juvenile court.

I don't know exactly what is going to happen but I have told DH that he will not come in our home again.

Dh hasn't said much of anything to me about it but I almost feel like he is blaming me. I can't explain it because he hasn't said anything, it's just how he has been to me.

WOW, let me first say that this post has gotten way more replies then I thought. Thank you for the well wishes and kind words. For those who think I am just out to get SS, I am not sure what part of my post makes you feel that way but if that was what I was doing, I would have said he couldn't come over when he started threatening my kids instead of switching the visits so my kids wouldn't be here when he wasn't here.

Some have gotten a little confused about whether or not this was an accident. I was he was careless and angry and that is what caused this. Not cause him shouldering me, that was on purpose but because he was angry and not controlling his temper, he shouldered me so hard that it pushed me down the stairs.

Anyway, on to the update

I went to the OB this morning. They did a more in depth ultrasound, the person in the hospital who does it is not a trained OB ultrasound tech, they know enough to see that the baby is still alive and that the placenta is still attached.The ultrasound showed that a small part of the placenta has started to detach. Therefore, I have been put on restricted activity which includes no sex until the baby is born. Basically, I can do small amounts of housework in between lots of sitting around until baby comes and I am 30 weeks right now so between 6-10 weeks.

We got out of the OBs office to find DH had 9 missed called and 4 voice-mails. In between lots of threats and cussing from BM and SS (some were from SS voice-mails were from BM) they said that SS will be charged with the assault of a pregnant woman and may well do time in juvenile detention. They said that the only way SS will not be charged is if I go and say that he did not shove me or even touch me intentionally and that he just accidentally bumped me and I lost my footing and fell. I will not do that because that's not what happened, he may or may not have meant to make me fall, I don't know but I do know that he meant to shoulder shove me knowing we were on the stairs and that I am 7 months pregnant.

Maybe making him face the consequences on his own will help him, maybe not but I am not going to lie for him, especially after I found out today how close I came to losing this baby over his temper tantrum.

Dh agrees that until I feel comfortable with having him over he shouldn't be. He will take him out and they will do stuff together and he is going to try to work it out with BM that he can take him for a couple hours a few times a week since he is not taking him every other weekend. As far as me lying for SS, he says that DH is torn. He wants to protect his son but he understands that I am not willing to lie to get him out of trouble since after what he did, he should be in trouble.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 28, 2013 at 4:22 PM
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Lionpaw
by on Apr. 28, 2013 at 4:58 PM
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ps. can I point out that it is a felony offense to hit/harm a pregnant woman???


Seeing some peoples replies, if they have no consideration for a pregnant woman. What if the OP had been holding a baby and got knocked down and the baby fell out of the OP arms and got hurt while bouncing down 5 steps??? Still okay?

I don't think so. I'd put my bio kids first, and if DH wanted to have an abusive brat around, then DH better be home to supervise all interactions between SS and other kids/wife. If hes not willing, he and his psycho kid can live elsewhere and I'd be getting a divorce.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Apr. 28, 2013 at 4:58 PM

Anger issues,  oh yes.   But why take it out on YOU? It was his father's fault no doubt, whatever happened between his mother and father..... he should be angry at his father.    I suppose this was his way of getting at him, through you?

*sigh* and the world wants us to think blended families are all so rosy....

Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Apr. 28, 2013 at 4:59 PM
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Lol is that what you say when you realize you're wrong?

Quoting Anonymous:

Whatever I ain't wasting time on you




Quoting Anonymous:

She was alone with him and she needed an ambulance. She didn't call the police, she didn't press charges, she simply called for an ambulance. It isn't her fault that he went to jail, the authorities gave no one a choice.




Quoting Anonymous:

So it was a accident. Because he was mad its not as is he took both hands and pushed. Sorry it happened but I don't agree with him going to jail.








Quoting Anonymous:

He meant to shoulder me (you know, like when you are mad at someone and you pass them and you bump you shoulder against theirs) but because he was mad and being careless, he did it too hard and pushed me. Whether it was on purpose or not, he is not innocent in this, he was angry and loosing his temper and it could have cost his half sister her life.






Quoting Anonymous:

It spuds like he didnt mean to knock you down.














bad_mama2011
by on Apr. 28, 2013 at 4:59 PM

I'm glad your baby is ok, I hope he gets his anger issues under control before he hurts someone or before he pisses off the wrong person and they hurt or kill him.

hautemama83
by Emerald Member on Apr. 28, 2013 at 4:59 PM
Wtf fantasy land are you in? He shoulder checked her. Doesn't matter whether he meant for her to fall or not. I'm sure plenty of drunk drivers don't mean to kill people, but it still fucking happens. Intention is irrelevant. But.its cool you advocate for violence, and what not. Sounds like a personal problem. Btw she didn't call the cops. She called for medical attention. Or did you miss that part of the post?

Quoting Anonymous:

He bumped her!! And no I wouldn't call the cops on someone rather the female was knocked up or not.




Quoting hautemama83:

I find that hard to believe. I have yet to see anyone agree with a pregnant chick being shoved for no reason....which is exactly what happened.





Quoting Anonymous:

No I wouldn't say the guy would need to be in jail!!!!








Quoting hautemama83:

This logic is so failed. If it were a domestic dispute between a couple, everyone would agree he needs to be in jail. Furthermore plenty of criminal actions start out as "accidents"









Quoting Anonymous:

So it was a accident. Because he was mad its not as is he took both hands and pushed. Sorry it happened but I don't agree with him going to jail.












Quoting Anonymous:

He meant to shoulder me (you know, like when you are mad at someone and you pass them and you bump you shoulder against theirs) but because he was mad and being careless, he did it too hard and pushed me. Whether it was on purpose or not, he is not innocent in this, he was angry and loosing his temper and it could have cost his half sister her life.









Quoting Anonymous:

It spuds like he didnt mean to knock you down.












Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 28, 2013 at 4:59 PM

Yeah, that's right, I wasn't calling 911 because I was worried about my baby, I was trying to get rid of SS. I didn't even ask for the police to come, if I was trying to get rid of SS, wouldn't I have done that?



Quoting Anonymous:

Looks to me like she was looking for a reason to get her SS out of her life and seized this opportunity.


Quoting Anonymous:

I wouldn't allow my son back around you so wouldn't have to worry about that. Cause if my son accidentally knocked someone down the stairs and went to jail. Someone would be getting a ass beating.




Quoting Anonymous:

It doesn't really matter,maybe he didn't mean for me to fall, but at the very least he did mean to knock into me while, at 7 months pregnant, I was walking down stairs. I don't know exactly what his intentions were and neither do you, but I do know what happened.





Quoting Anonymous:

So it was a accident. Because he was mad its not as is he took both hands and pushed. Sorry it happened but I don't agree with him going to jail.








Quoting Anonymous:

He meant to shoulder me (you know, like when you are mad at someone and you pass them and you bump you shoulder against theirs) but because he was mad and being careless, he did it too hard and pushed me. Whether it was on purpose or not, he is not innocent in this, he was angry and loosing his temper and it could have cost his half sister her life.






Quoting Anonymous:

It spuds like he didnt mean to knock you down.

















Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 28, 2013 at 4:59 PM
You freaking fell down the stairs he didnt push you!! Good job you don't have to see stepson again cause I wouldn't allow you or the father around him


Quoting Anonymous:

So while I was worried that my water may have broken or my placenta my have detached (which would have meant my baby was dead) I should have come up with a lie to prevent SS from getting in trouble for what he did? NO




Quoting Anonymous:

Yes she could have prevented him going to jail. She could have said she slipped. And he bumped into her!! There is a difference between bumping and shoving someone!!





Quoting Anonymous:

Accident or not it was not her choice to make. The police made the call and took him in. Get mad at them not the OP. He DID mean to push her, but due to being angry he pushed her too hard and she fell. He should never have tried to push her in the first pace, he deserves what is coming to him. Punk kid will learn anger is NOT the answer, especially around a pregnant woman.





Quoting Anonymous:

So it was a accident. Because he was mad its not as is he took both hands and pushed. Sorry it happened but I don't agree with him going to jail.









Quoting Anonymous:

He meant to shoulder me (you know, like when you are mad at someone and you pass them and you bump you shoulder against theirs) but because he was mad and being careless, he did it too hard and pushed me. Whether it was on purpose or not, he is not innocent in this, he was angry and loosing his temper and it could have cost his half sister her life.







Quoting Anonymous:

It spuds like he didnt mean to knock you down.















Lionpaw
by on Apr. 28, 2013 at 5:00 PM
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You would beat up a pregnant woman if your son got charged with a crime from assaulting a pregnant woman????

Quoting Anonymous:

For one I wouldn't say it to anyone!! I would do it someone put my child in jail. And I would make sure my child wasn't around either the father or the damn stepmother again


Quoting Anonymous:

He didn't accidentally knock into me, that was on purpose. I am not sure whether he meant for me to fall or not but that's what happened. And if you were his mom and even dared say that to me, you would be in jail too




Quoting Anonymous:

I wouldn't allow my son back around you so wouldn't have to worry about that. Cause if my son accidentally knocked someone down the stairs and went to jail. Someone would be getting a ass beating.





Quoting Anonymous:

It doesn't really matter,maybe he didn't mean for me to fall, but at the very least he did mean to knock into me while, at 7 months pregnant, I was walking down stairs. I don't know exactly what his intentions were and neither do you, but I do know what happened.





Quoting Anonymous:

So it was a accident. Because he was mad its not as is he took both hands and pushed. Sorry it happened but I don't agree with him going to jail.








Quoting Anonymous:

He meant to shoulder me (you know, like when you are mad at someone and you pass them and you bump you shoulder against theirs) but because he was mad and being careless, he did it too hard and pushed me. Whether it was on purpose or not, he is not innocent in this, he was angry and loosing his temper and it could have cost his half sister her life.






Quoting Anonymous:

It spuds like he didnt mean to knock you down.




















mem82
by Platinum Member on Apr. 28, 2013 at 5:00 PM
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It doesn't honestly sound like he was trying to push you down the stairs. Kids are dumb, sometimes.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 28, 2013 at 5:00 PM
Yeah I would still be saying this.


Quoting Melissa_4:

Really?  Why should she lie to protect him?  She was already in the ambulence when the police got involved.  She called 911 because she didn't know if her water broke or not, and the baby could have been in jepardy.  I want to see what YOU would do if it was you and your unborn child.  

I wouldn't want him in my home any more either.  A pregnant woman at the end of pregnancy is too vulnerable to an angry 16-year-old, and a newborn could easily be injured or murdered by an angry teen who didn't mean to push the mother down the stairs while carrying the baby...he just "bumped into her a little too rough" and oops, there goes the baby and mother.  What if that was the scenario and the baby died?  Would you still be saying this?  The kid has anger issues.  The father can still see him, just not in his home.  It's not like she's asking her husband to never see him again.



Quoting Anonymous:

Yes she could have prevented him going to jail. She could have said she slipped. And he bumped into her!! There is a difference between bumping and shoving someone!! 






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