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So I just started about a year ago reconnecting with an old friend from High School. Started working out together. She introduced me to her husband who got me on to BeachBody workouts like P90x, Insanity, Turbofire even started running in the early mornings with him. My friend doesn't run because she just hates it so I wake up early some mornings and will go running with her husband, who had become a very good friend/buddy. Well so I thought...I am a happily married woman and he would say he is a happily married man. But apparently he wants a little more from me than just my friendship. We have been buddies and running with each other since last July, well the other day we are facebooking, he is working offshore and that is the only way he communicates when gone. Well we are just talking while I am watching my son's basketball practice (my husband is the coach) he starts talking a little pervy. I mean making comments of how he is horny. Well I'm like you need to talk to your wife, then all of a sudden he sends me a picture of his junk with his hand on it, "saying I can't wait to get home and stick this so deep in you". Then right after that he message me sayin "omg don't look at that I am sorry it was meant to go to my wife, who I am talking to now on Facebook". I'm like ok obviously I can't avoid looking at it since it was right there. But he continues to laugh about it and talk to me about it.
I tell him to finish his business with his wife and I'll talk to him later. He tells me she just went to bed. This all happened that fast. In no way could you be in the middle of sexting then they go to bed that quick. I'm not stupid. So I just tell him I got to go. He has never once been inappropriate with me alone face to face, except for one time when he wanted to stretch me out I had to stop him..Was too weird.
Like I said his wife is a friend of mine and I don't play games and definitely wouldn't do that to a friend or the love of my life. She tells me how she trusts him blah blah, also talks about how she hasn't been giving it up to him.
Do y'all think this was a one time thing or what? He is just a different person on FB?

Sorry how this is written, doing this all from my IPhone.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 29, 2013 at 2:45 AM
Replies (11-20):
kbix82
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:24 AM
Honestly she could have been lieing in bed talking to him, i've sone that 1000 times. Make sure he is clear your not interested tho
MilkLover0203
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:24 AM
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He totally did that to see how you would react. I'm sorry but I know bullshit when I hear/see it. That would have been his perfect opportunity for him to see what you would do, given the chance.
mommyof11050307
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:25 AM
I knew a girl that her husband crossed the line many times. My husband saw everything he wrote to me. I made the decision to cut them both out. I haven't talked to her in months.
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JLo1486
by Gold Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:28 AM
Why not if all parties involved are ok with it?

Quoting Anonymous:

You don't go out with another woman's husband jogging or whatnot. What did u expect ?? He's a married man stay the fuck away




Quoting Anonymous:

Where did I over step? I never once gave him the impression that i want anything other than a friendship with him. My husband and his wife know we run, FB and talk on the phone. I truly believe a man and a woman can be friends without any sexual feeling toward one another. I just now after all these months think he has other intentions.






Quoting Anonymous:

You both slowly overstepped the bounds long ago.







And, fb is the devil. I would personally break ties immediately. Jmo.


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MsCherry10
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:28 AM

It wasn't real

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:30 AM
I expect to run. Just because I went running with a man does not in anyway mean I wanted sex from him or anything of that nature. Also the running started out as a group thing but as months went on others dropped out one by one. I kept going because I have a lot of weight to lose and really enjoyed it. His wife and my hubby knew that it was just the two of us left and had no problems. We didn't see it as anything since we are all friends.

But I will no longer be doing anything with him since he has now made such advances to me.


Quoting Anonymous:

You don't go out with another woman's husband jogging or whatnot. What did u expect ?? He's a married man stay the fuck away




Quoting Anonymous:

Where did I over step? I never once gave him the impression that i want anything other than a friendship with him. My husband and his wife know we run, FB and talk on the phone. I truly believe a man and a woman can be friends without any sexual feeling toward one another. I just now after all these months think he has other intentions.






Quoting Anonymous:

You both slowly overstepped the bounds long ago.







And, fb is the devil. I would personally break ties immediately. Jmo.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:36 AM
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I wouldn't be alone with him. But I'd try to let this go. As best I could anyways.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:36 AM
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I understand. I just really like his wife. She is a good friend and in this day it's hard to find good friends. I wouldn't mind losing him though. It just sucks how people have to ruin a good thing by being stupid.


Quoting mommyof11050307:

I knew a girl that her husband crossed the line many times. My husband saw everything he wrote to me. I made the decision to cut them both out. I haven't talked to her in months.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:42 AM
Uhh agreeing to work out with him already gave him the impression of something more may happen.
Journeysmama11
by Silver Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:42 AM
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I completely agree.

If you said yes, he'd jump at the opportunity. (not saying you would!!!) I think that if you and his wife are good enough friends then you should tell her. All the comments that you said he made in the previous comments worry me. If he can't get you he'll find a willing woman. I think she deserves to know. And I'd let your dh know too so he doesn't find out somehow. Even if you think there is no way. Best to just get it out in the open, plus he will question why you two aren't hanging out anymore.

And yes, men and women CAN be just friends, but it just doesn't look right to have a married man with another woman that is not his wife without more people. 

Quoting MilkLover0203:

He totally did that to see how you would react. I'm sorry but I know bullshit when I hear/see it. That would have been his perfect opportunity for him to see what you would do, given the chance.


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