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So I just started about a year ago reconnecting with an old friend from High School. Started working out together. She introduced me to her husband who got me on to BeachBody workouts like P90x, Insanity, Turbofire even started running in the early mornings with him. My friend doesn't run because she just hates it so I wake up early some mornings and will go running with her husband, who had become a very good friend/buddy. Well so I thought...I am a happily married woman and he would say he is a happily married man. But apparently he wants a little more from me than just my friendship. We have been buddies and running with each other since last July, well the other day we are facebooking, he is working offshore and that is the only way he communicates when gone. Well we are just talking while I am watching my son's basketball practice (my husband is the coach) he starts talking a little pervy. I mean making comments of how he is horny. Well I'm like you need to talk to your wife, then all of a sudden he sends me a picture of his junk with his hand on it, "saying I can't wait to get home and stick this so deep in you". Then right after that he message me sayin "omg don't look at that I am sorry it was meant to go to my wife, who I am talking to now on Facebook". I'm like ok obviously I can't avoid looking at it since it was right there. But he continues to laugh about it and talk to me about it.
I tell him to finish his business with his wife and I'll talk to him later. He tells me she just went to bed. This all happened that fast. In no way could you be in the middle of sexting then they go to bed that quick. I'm not stupid. So I just tell him I got to go. He has never once been inappropriate with me alone face to face, except for one time when he wanted to stretch me out I had to stop him..Was too weird.
Like I said his wife is a friend of mine and I don't play games and definitely wouldn't do that to a friend or the love of my life. She tells me how she trusts him blah blah, also talks about how she hasn't been giving it up to him.
Do y'all think this was a one time thing or what? He is just a different person on FB?

Sorry how this is written, doing this all from my IPhone.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 29, 2013 at 2:45 AM
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MilkLover0203
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:46 AM
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Here's how you know whether he was being a filthy ass male or not. Lets say my DF and I were chatting on FB if for some reason he weren't around, but he's also chatting with his best friends girlfriend whom I adore and will be in our wedding. If he had accidentally sent a picture of his junk to his best friends girlfriend, you'd better believe he'd be the first one to tell me about it while kicking himself in the ass. I kind of call bullshit on this being an accident though.


Quoting Journeysmama11:

I completely agree.

If you said yes, he'd jump at the opportunity. (not saying you would!!!) I think that if you and his wife are good enough friends then you should tell her. All the comments that you said he made in the previous comments worry me. If he can't get you he'll find a willing woman. I think she deserves to know. And I'd let your dh know too so he doesn't find out somehow. Even if you think there is no way. Best to just get it out in the open, plus he will question why you two aren't hanging out anymore.

And yes, men and women CAN be just friends, but it just doesn't look right to have a married man with another woman that is not his wife without more people. 

Quoting MilkLover0203:

He totally did that to see how you would react. I'm sorry but I know bullshit when I hear/see it. That would have been his perfect opportunity for him to see what you would do, given the chance.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:53 AM
It felt like BS too when he did it. You know how men can't seem to lie or play anything off well? The way he was talking just felt like he was trying. I told him to go talk to just his wife and he told me right away she was going to bed. So I was like wtf!! And just sari I had to go.

I'm going to tell my hubby what's up tomorrow.


Quoting MilkLover0203:

Here's how you know whether he was being a filthy ass male or not. Lets say my DF and I were chatting on FB if for some reason he weren't around, but he's also chatting with his best friends girlfriend whom I adore and will be in our wedding. If he had accidentally sent a picture of his junk to his best friends girlfriend, you'd better believe he'd be the first one to tell me about it while kicking himself in the ass. I kind of call bullshit on this being an accident though.




Quoting Journeysmama11:

I completely agree.

If you said yes, he'd jump at the opportunity. (not saying you would!!!) I think that if you and his wife are good enough friends then you should tell her. All the comments that you said he made in the previous comments worry me. If he can't get you he'll find a willing woman. I think she deserves to know. And I'd let your dh know too so he doesn't find out somehow. Even if you think there is no way. Best to just get it out in the open, plus he will question why you two aren't hanging out anymore.

And yes, men and women CAN be just friends, but it just doesn't look right to have a married man with another woman that is not his wife without more people. 

Quoting MilkLover0203:

He totally did that to see how you would react. I'm sorry but I know bullshit when I hear/see it. That would have been his perfect opportunity for him to see what you would do, given the chance.




mommyof11050307
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 3:54 AM
I've been friends since before I met my husband. After really getting to know her I really think she's weird and brings a lot of problems on herself. What her husband did is no excuse for what he said to me. She just treats him like a child and wonders why he doesn't do anything. She seems to think he should work and make all the money so she doesn't have to work and can stay home. He's just out of the military and nothing is good enough. He was deployed for 9 months and got out two months after getting mad and got mad because he got a low payin job just to earn money.


Quoting Anonymous:

I understand. I just really like his wife. She is a good friend and in this day it's hard to find good friends. I wouldn't mind losing him though. It just sucks how people have to ruin a good thing by being stupid.




Quoting mommyof11050307:

I knew a girl that her husband crossed the line many times. My husband saw everything he wrote to me. I made the decision to cut them both out. I haven't talked to her in months.


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MilkLover0203
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 4:00 AM
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Yeah, regardless of his intentions, you have to do the right thing here. I'd be telling my husband and maybe casually, in a joking way mention it to your girlfriend. I can almost guarantee she won't know it happened and she should. If you come off like you're shocked and kind of amused, maybe she won't take it so shitty had you just said "What the hell was your husband thinking?!" Know what I mean? That way she's at least aware of what happened.


Quoting Anonymous:

It felt like BS too when he did it. You know how men can't seem to lie or play anything off well? The way he was talking just felt like he was trying. I told him to go talk to just his wife and he told me right away she was going to bed. So I was like wtf!! And just sari I had to go.



I'm going to tell my hubby what's up tomorrow.




Quoting MilkLover0203:

Here's how you know whether he was being a filthy ass male or not. Lets say my DF and I were chatting on FB if for some reason he weren't around, but he's also chatting with his best friends girlfriend whom I adore and will be in our wedding. If he had accidentally sent a picture of his junk to his best friends girlfriend, you'd better believe he'd be the first one to tell me about it while kicking himself in the ass. I kind of call bullshit on this being an accident though.






Quoting Journeysmama11:

I completely agree.

If you said yes, he'd jump at the opportunity. (not saying you would!!!) I think that if you and his wife are good enough friends then you should tell her. All the comments that you said he made in the previous comments worry me. If he can't get you he'll find a willing woman. I think she deserves to know. And I'd let your dh know too so he doesn't find out somehow. Even if you think there is no way. Best to just get it out in the open, plus he will question why you two aren't hanging out anymore.

And yes, men and women CAN be just friends, but it just doesn't look right to have a married man with another woman that is not his wife without more people. 

Quoting MilkLover0203:

He totally did that to see how you would react. I'm sorry but I know bullshit when I hear/see it. That would have been his perfect opportunity for him to see what you would do, given the chance.





BUFFIE.the.BODY
by Ruby Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 4:09 AM
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Lol apparently you do play those type of games... does your dh or your "friend" know about all the EXTRA contact you two have been keeping??

It's a difference between running in the morning "as buddies and facebooking AND TEXT messaging eachother.... o_0

Re-read VERYYYY SLOWLY everything you just typed and ask yourself these questions. Glad you aren't my friend bc I'd. ... nevermind -_-
BUFFIE.the.BODY
by Ruby Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 4:10 AM
Agree!

Quoting Anonymous:

You both slowly overstepped the bounds long ago.



And, fb is the devil. I would personally break ties immediately. Jmo.
BUFFIE.the.BODY
by Ruby Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 4:12 AM
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You know wtf she means. Quit it with the bs

Quoting Anonymous:

Where did I over step? I never once gave him the impression that i want anything other than a friendship with him. My husband and his wife know we run, FB and talk on the phone. I truly believe a man and a woman can be friends without any sexual feeling toward one another. I just now after all these months think he has other intentions.




Quoting Anonymous:

You both slowly overstepped the bounds long ago.





And, fb is the devil. I would personally break ties immediately. Jmo.

Baby5678
by Bronze Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 4:15 AM
He's a slimeball... That was no accident of his lol... Keep your distance
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 29, 2013 at 5:00 AM
Well. You can truly believe what you want.

Not everyone feels that way and doesn't seem he got the memo. I'm sure that makes his wife, STOKED. Wouldn't you be?


Quoting Anonymous:

Where did I over step? I never once gave him the impression that i want anything other than a friendship with him. My husband and his wife know we run, FB and talk on the phone. I truly believe a man and a woman can be friends without any sexual feeling toward one another. I just now after all these months think he has other intentions.




Quoting Anonymous:

You both slowly overstepped the bounds long ago.





And, fb is the devil. I would personally break ties immediately. Jmo.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 29, 2013 at 9:12 AM
Yes, both know all the contact. He will call me My husband is right there. We talk 3 ways even text me when I'm with his wife and she knows. I believe you women that are saying things like this have trust issues. I have had plenty of guy friends that nothing like this has ever happened. Running and talking to someone as friends is not anything bad he is the one that over stepped and I put a stopped to it. Some of you ladies show your true nature on here. Sad....


Quoting BUFFIE.the.BODY:

Lol apparently you do play those type of games... does your dh or your "friend" know about all the EXTRA contact you two have been keeping??



It's a difference between running in the morning "as buddies and facebooking AND TEXT messaging eachother.... o_0



Re-read VERYYYY SLOWLY everything you just typed and ask yourself these questions. Glad you aren't my friend bc I'd. ... nevermind -_-

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