*he just came home , update later
Update: He came home after an hour of being gone, I didn't see him at first but heard him come in and go straight to the shower. After he got out of the shower he dressed again, came up and kissed our daughter goodbye (i was holding her) and he spoke to me for the first time since being home. He said "Bye darlin". I had been clinching my jaw the whole time so I wouldn't say anything to him first. I just said "where ya going?" And he said "to the post office to get the package that came in" (my Mother's Day present actually) and I said ok and he left. He did holler "I love you" up the stairs on his way out though.
Update2: He came back from the post office with my Mother's Day present and acted like the whole thing never happened. I didn't bring it back up and neither did he, we just hung out for the time he had left until work then when he did leave he gave me a hug and kiss and said he loves me like he always does. He and I both know we were both in the wrong which is why it wasn't brought back up, neither wants to apologize first so it'll likely just get buried. I am hoping some good comes from this in that he realizes I'm not going to be talked to like that and he is not to threaten me with violence. I am glad I stood up for myself, it was about time because these "I'm going to slap you in your face" comments are not new and not cool.
Update3: He called about an hour after he got to work and we chatted a bit about general stuff (the house, the baby) then I did ask him where he went while he left for that hour. He said he went to go sleep in his car down the street. I do believe him because I have done the same thing.