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Lazy parents really piss me off!

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I get so tired of lazy ass parents that can not watch their own kids! I am not responsible for YOUR kids playing in front of my place! Earlier today after the kids got out of school most of the kids run straight outside, they knock on my door in the matter of how long it takes to run home and drop off their back packs [[ANNOYING]] my kids do their homework first. Then when my kids go out after it is done they play right where I can see them through my windows until I get my DD ready to go so not out there long.. My DS's are 8 and 9 can play right out in the front of my apartment, it is away from the road on the inside of the complex just grass and trees. I am usually out there when I get my 3 year old DD ready.


Anyways they werent outside for all of 5 mins while I was getting my DDs shoes and hoodie on and came to tell me neighbor kids was in the chase (a big ditch filled with bushes and vine like trees that is deep on one end and shallow on the other right in front of my place) lighting the bushes on FIRE!!!! I quickly went out there to see what was going on and the bushes were on F***ING fired!! Other parents came out about that time too. These two kids lived on the other side of the complex for one, same age as my kids and their parents arent even watching them! We called the fire department and the office people. 


We who all lived over there were livid because it would have burned down our apartments and our kids play out there! So to all you lazy ass parents get off you ass's away from your computers and TV and learn to take responsibilty and watch YOUR own kids and stop expecting other parents to do it for you!! 

EDIT--- FOR ALL OF YOU WHO WANT TO JUDGE ME FOR LAZY PARENTS NOT WATCHING "THEIR OWN KIDS" AND WONDERING WHERE MY KIDS ARE, WELL YESTERDAY WHEN I MADE THIS POST MY KIDS WERE ACROSS THE ROOM EATING THEIR DINNER AND INSIDE WHERE I CAN STILL SEE THEM. AS OF RIGHT NOW MY BOYS ARE IN SCHOOL AND MY DD IS WATCHING CARTOONS SITTING RIGHT NEXT TO ME. I KNOW WHERE MY KIDS ARE AND I WATCH MY KIDS AT ALL TIME WHEN THEY ARE OUTSIDE. MY BOYS WALKING OUT THE DOOR LESS THAN 5 MINS BEFORE ME OMG ARE YOU SERIOUS? MY KIDS DIDNT START THE FIRE AND I WATCH MY 8 AND 9 YEAR OLD WHILE THEY ARE OUTSIDE. 8 AND 9 YEAR OLD SHOULDNT NEED ME TO WATCH THEM THE WHOLE TIME BECAUSE MINE KNOW HOW TO BEHAVE. JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE KIDS DO NOT HAVE PARENTAL GUIDANCE DOESNT MEAN ALL 8 AND 9 YEAR OLDS ARE BAD. GET OFF THE ATTACKING ME BECAUSE IT MAKES YOU LOOK LIKE YOU DEFEND LAZY PARENTS WHO DONT WATCH THEIR KIDS AND YOU SEEM TO BE ONE OF THEM OBVIOUSLY TO DEFEND THAT AND TRY AND ATTACK ME FOR BEING MAD THAT MY KIDS ALONG WITH A HALF A DOZEN OTHER KIDS THAT ARE OUTSIDE PLAYING NEAR THERE TOO COULD HAVE GOTTEN SERIOUSLY HURT.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 29, 2013 at 6:26 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 24 on May. 1, 2013 at 7:50 AM
The same thing happens in my neighborhood (not the fire but unsupervised kids playing in front of my home).
I see parents step out of their houses to check on the kids, wave to me and go back inside. I think because they see me out there with my kids they assume I will supervise theirs as well. It's annoying as all hell. I end up being the freaking play ground monitor for 10+ kids. It makes me not want to take my kids outside!
I'm with you, lazy parents suck!
Kmary
by Silver Member on May. 1, 2013 at 8:11 AM
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I don't have issues.  I have now read your original post 3 times and it was never explicitly stated that the kids were the ones who lit them on fire.   You never mention lighters or anything until now.  And I normally hate the person who calls out the grammar stuff in a post and never do it, but I honestly had trouble following part of it because the grammar and wording were odd:   "They was in the chase?"  I had no clue what this was supposed to mean.  I'm thinking we're not from the same region of the country...

That being said, those kids in your apartment complex are awful and need supervision.  I stand by my general statement that normally children of that age should be able to conduct themselves outdoors for a while without a parent around.  I feel badly for you that you have to live near such poorly-raised children.  That is definitely not your fault.


Quoting Anonymous:

Yea it has nothing to do with the office or the landscaping. If the parents of these kids in 5 years ever watched their own kids.play outside or even punished them when they screwed up that most likely wouldn't of happened. Kids will be kids but it is the parents fault. These kids get in trouble every other day. Yet they do not learn.

Why in any way kids playing with a lighter be the apartment managements fault? You have issues.

Quoting Kmary:

So...there were bushes on fire at your apartment and your reaction is to bitch about 8 and 9 year old's parents who aren't right outside with them?  Wouldn't the normal reaction be to bitch about your apartment complex as to why there was a brush fire where children play? 

See, this is what is wrong with our society and the current way people parent.  Children of ages 8 and older should be able to play outside without mommy and daddy right near them and have a reasonable expectation of not being, you know, burned by fire!  And furthermore, they should be taught properly that if they see/smell fire to get the hell away and tell someone or call 911.  This incident is awful, but the "awful" part has NOTHING to do with lazy parenting and I find it sad and wrong that that is how you see it.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 25 on May. 1, 2013 at 8:12 AM
Says the mom writing novels....

Quoting Anonymous:

I get so tired of lazy ass parents that can not watch their own kids! I am not responsible for YOUR kids playing in front of my place! Earlier today after the kids got out of school most of the kids run straight outside, they knock on my door in the matter of how long it takes to run home and drop off their back packs [[ANNOYING]] my kids do their homework first. Then when my kids go out after it is done they play right where I can see them through my windows until I get my DD ready to go so not out there long.. My DS's are 8 and 9 can play right out in the front of my apartment, it is away from the road on the inside of the complex just grass and trees. I am usually out there when I get my 3 year old DD ready.


Anyways they werent outside for all of 5 mins while I was getting my DDs shoes and hoodie on and came to tell me neighbor kids was in the chase (a big ditch filled with bushes and vine like trees that is deep on one end and shallow on the other right in front of my place) lighting the bushes on FIRE!!!! I quickly went out there to see what was going on and the bushes were on F***ING fired!! Other parents came out about that time too. These two kids lived on the other side of the complex for one, same age as my kids and their parents arent even watching them! We called the fire department and the office people. 


We who all lived over there were livid because it would have burned down our apartments and our kids play out there! So to all you lazy ass parents get off you ass's away from your computers and TV and learn to take responsibilty and watch YOUR own kids and stop expecting other parents to do it for you!! 




EDIT--- FOR ALL OF YOU WHO WANT TO JUDGE ME FOR LAZY PARENTS NOT WATCHING "THEIR OWN KIDS" AND WONDERING WHERE MY KIDS ARE, WELL YESTERDAY WHEN I MADE THIS POST MY KIDS WERE ACROSS THE ROOM EATING THEIR DINNER AND INSIDE WHERE I CAN STILL SEE THEM. AS OF RIGHT NOW MY BOYS ARE IN SCHOOL AND MY DD IS WATCHING CARTOONS SITTING RIGHT NEXT TO ME. I KNOW WHERE MY KIDS ARE AND I WATCH MY KIDS AT ALL TIME WHEN THEY ARE OUTSIDE. MY BOYS WALKING OUT THE DOOR LESS THAN 5 MINS BEFORE ME OMG ARE YOU SERIOUS? MY KIDS DIDNT START THE FIRE AND I WATCH MY 8 AND 9 YEAR OLD WHILE THEY ARE OUTSIDE. 8 AND 9 YEAR OLD SHOULDNT NEED ME TO WATCH THEM THE WHOLE TIME BECAUSE MINE KNOW HOW TO BEHAVE. JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE KIDS DO NOT HAVE PARENTAL GUIDANCE DOESNT MEAN ALL 8 AND 9 YEAR OLDS ARE BAD. GET OFF THE ATTACKING ME BECAUSE IT MAKES YOU LOOK LIKE YOU DEFEND LAZY PARENTS WHO DONT WATCH THEIR KIDS AND YOU SEEM TO BE ONE OF THEM OBVIOUSLY TO DEFEND THAT AND TRY AND ATTACK ME FOR BEING MAD THAT MY KIDS ALONG WITH A HALF A DOZEN OTHER KIDS THAT ARE OUTSIDE PLAYING NEAR THERE TOO COULD HAVE GOTTEN SERIOUSLY HURT.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 1, 2013 at 8:32 AM
I explained what the chase was in parenthesis. It's an embankment on both sides that has a deeper end and a more shallow end. It has bushes and tress with vines in there. The kids like to play in there and make forts out of the hideaway. I didn't think I had to mention how they started a fire they are obviously not boy Scouts they had gotten their parents lighter and started a fire.

These kids are only awful because their parents clearly show no concern or any supervision, since they were 4 and 5 playing outside buildings away from their parents.

Quoting Kmary:

I don't have issues.  I have now read your original post 3 times and it was never explicitly stated that the kids were the ones who lit them on fire.   You never mention lighters or anything until now.  And I normally hate the person who calls out the grammar stuff in a post and never do it, but I honestly had trouble following part of it because the grammar and wording were odd:   "They was in the chase?"  I had no clue what this was supposed to mean.  I'm thinking we're not from the same region of the country...

That being said, those kids in your apartment complex are awful and need supervision.  I stand by my general statement that normally children of that age should be able to conduct themselves outdoors for a while without a parent around.  I feel badly for you that you have to live near such poorly-raised children.  That is definitely not your fault.



Quoting Anonymous:

Yea it has nothing to do with the office or the landscaping. If the parents of these kids in 5 years ever watched their own kids.play outside or even punished them when they screwed up that most likely wouldn't of happened. Kids will be kids but it is the parents fault. These kids get in trouble every other day. Yet they do not learn.



Why in any way kids playing with a lighter be the apartment managements fault? You have issues.



Quoting Kmary:

So...there were bushes on fire at your apartment and your reaction is to bitch about 8 and 9 year old's parents who aren't right outside with them?  Wouldn't the normal reaction be to bitch about your apartment complex as to why there was a brush fire where children play? 

See, this is what is wrong with our society and the current way people parent.  Children of ages 8 and older should be able to play outside without mommy and daddy right near them and have a reasonable expectation of not being, you know, burned by fire!  And furthermore, they should be taught properly that if they see/smell fire to get the hell away and tell someone or call 911.  This incident is awful, but the "awful" part has NOTHING to do with lazy parenting and I find it sad and wrong that that is how you see it.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 26 on May. 1, 2013 at 1:56 PM

What is bump?  And why do you all use all these abreviations DH DA DD, how come no one writes well anymore everyone makes up all these abreviations its anoying.

makenit
by Silver Member on May. 1, 2013 at 4:43 PM
8 and 9 years is plenty old enough to play outside without mom, as long as there are boundaries set on the "where" , the "don't be alone", and you check on them periodically. (If you have seen them demonstrate making responsible choices) . I think jumping on the OP for letting the kids out a few minutes before taking the little one out is a bit much, however all parents need to recognize that sometimes kids left unsupervised for long periods of time will get into trouble. That just kids being inquisitive and why they have parents to protect them . ( we certainly don't birth independent offspring.)

When I lived in apts we always had chronically unsupervised children at our backdoor peering in, knocking.. I would close the curtains but my husband would feel bad and invite them in. (They were friends of my kids) one day I went into my kitchen and a little girl was eating a carrot from my fridge. she asked if we had any peanut butter. It was dinner time and about 10 of these kids chronically were hungry. Well clothed, had toys but their moms were always working. I wound up making lots of PBJ sandwiches that year because I can't stand see to see kids hungry.

And they ran as a mini mob all over the complex. Never vandalized, just loud and in the way all the time. THAT is what I consider unsupervised.


Quoting Anonymous:

5 minutes to less then three minutes is a long time and will be a long time of one of your kids ever goes missing because you aren't watching them. I am not lazy, I don't take my kids outside our place to play because I am not the street babysitter. We have kids as young as maybe 1.5yo running up and down the street, sitting in the middle of the street (and they don't move when a car comes), chasing after the "bigger" kids (the bigger kids are no older the 6)......so while in a way I sympathize with you, I can also see you are no better because while you are inside and your kids are outside someone else may be watching your kids because you aren't. Even so when I am at the park I sit on the bench, by myself or if I see someone there I could talk to I may talk to them while we watch our kids play, I listen to what my kids are saying and I will correct them if needed........there are times we won't stay at the park for very long because once again I am not a babysitter. I take my kids places to be with my kids, or to let my kids be kids while I watch......don't presume you know me because you really have no idea. My kids don't go outside without me.




Quoting Anonymous:

How long does it take to put on hoodie and shoes? Not that long. My kids arent the ones that started a damn fire. My kids barely out the door by the time I get my DDs shoes on. Your just mad because you sit on your fat ass while someone else watches your kids! Attacking, well trying to attack me for lazy parents not watching their own kids is pathetic, less than 5 or even less than 3 mins isnt that long when my kids behave themselves and I am out side with them. Like other posters said 8 and 9 year old shouldnt even have to have full supervision BUT I still sit outside with mine so STFU!



Quoting Anonymous:

And who watches her kids while they are outside and op is inside putting shoes and a hoodie on her dd?? Hmmm, she should take her own damn advice and be outside with her kids too or learn to admit she is no better then the "lazy ass" parents she is bitching about on here.








Quoting Anonymous:

soo, who is watching your kids while you're bitching on cm?





makenit
by Silver Member on May. 1, 2013 at 4:46 PM
Oh my!! I've been wondering the same thing!! Lol.. I haven't been Able to figure out what the D in the abbreviations mean!


Quoting Anonymous:

What is bump?  And why do you all use all these abreviations DH DA DD, how come no one writes well anymore everyone makes up all these abreviations its anoying.


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