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they can't take my son can they? pics update #2!

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I was lurking around a troll post last night and our situations were identical. I'm divorced with an 8yo DS living with my mom and dog in a camper.

So while browsing the comments, someone said she could have her son taken away for living in that situation. Then poof.

Here's our situation.

Xdh and i divorced while i was pregnant. He wants nothing to do with Ds and that's fine. I don't get cs and he isn't on the birth certificate.

I make 650 a month and only have 200 to pay for gas, laundry, groceries and toiletries. We suck at budgeting so something usually ends up not being purchased (gas, lotion, cell phone... Stuff like that). Any tips?

I spend maybe 20 bucks a month on the dog. My mother used to be a professional groomer so she handles the grooming and we buy his food in bulk. His vet bills are usually free.

We don't get fs because I'm afraid they'll take my ds. I don't want to stay in the ghetto (raised there and living where we live for a fee us much better).

Mom is the one to take care of ds if I'm working overtime (i work from 6am to 6pm regular hours). She picks him up and drops him off at school and if I'm too tired, she helps him with homework.

Everything is usually done on a schedule so no one is late.

I'm Showered and out of the house by 5:30. My mother drops me off and she makes it home at 6. she showers at 6 and has ds up, showered and out of the house by 7:30. Then she cleans and looks for work. I doubt she'll find anything because of her age. I told her i wanted her to start couponing or grooming dogs from the camper and she agreed.

i start a teaching job in August btw.

I just want to know if my son can be taken away? My sister said that she would call cps on me if I'm not able to provide for my son. Can she take him? And ask for budgeting tips until i can work.


Pictures in reply.


Update:

I would like to personally thank you women for easing my mind.

So lets address a few common questions:
I work a rotation schedule with two other people and i do not make min. wage. I know what they're doing is wrong but it's the only job i was able to get. My hours posted were just average hours that I often work.

This weeks schedule:
Monday - 6am to 7pm
Tuesday - Wednesday no work
Thursday - 6am - 4pm
Friday - 6am - 1pm
Saturday - Sunday - no work I rarely work on Sundays unless i request to be on the bathroom clean up crew. Most Sundays are usually when they request workers because must of the crew I'd at church. I got the job through church and we attend church every Sunday.

Today, my mother and I got a pullout couch free on craigslist. We are donating the old one. We vacuumed the entire thing, cleaned it and sprayed it to smell good. We are giving him the bedroom and putting the smaller TV in his room.

I spent twenty dollars on his new bedding with his favorite character on there (Batman) with the matching pillows and put little posters everywhere and put his personal DVD collection in there. My mom and I are sharing the pullout couch. I put a feather top thing for my mothers comfort.

Mom found a free DVD player (the small portable ones). It had a cracked screen but the plugs still worked so we just plugged it into the smaller TV.

He'll be here in ten minutes and I'm excited. We're going to play monudo(homemade board game) and surprise him after dinner.

Update 10pm:
We cooked a stretch meal (meaning it lasts a few days). It was grilled chicken cubed, sauteed onions and green bell peppers with white rice. It's ds' favorite meal. So anyway after that, we helped him with his homework and watched Batman beyond on DVD while we played monudo(it's basically the Sims in board game form). At 8, my mom and I did the big reveal. He was soooooooooo happy! He loved it and wanted his alone time to watch the Batman beyond movie. My mom and I are watching the golden girls box set and i just feel soo happy!

Update #2
I was not able to go to go through all of the replies because my mother and I cleaned the church for 250. Its a large church.
I saw a few replies telling me to get cs and fs
Ex husband was physically and verbally abusive and spiteful. So no. I'm not going to file for child support because he'll try and take my son from me. I'll die before I allow my son to grow up with that monster.

My mother is planning on filing for fs tomorrow.

Someone said ds would love watching real TV. Ds is perfectly fine with watching DVDs. We have a large collection of DVDs (movies and entire series of shows). He have the entire fox cartoon specials thing (family guy, Simpsons, Cleveland show, Bobs burgers and American dad) as well a many other cartoon and regular shows/movies so in sure he'll be fine.

The church has free school supplies for him (crayons, makers, pencils, etc.). We've traded in all of his winter clothes for summer (shorts, sorry sleeve t-shirts, etc.) and they even have us a free pair of shirts which we throughly washed.

The air conditioner is hooked up and working amazingly. I now have enough money for my mom (she's actually 64) to buy cooler clothes in a few days. I might buy a new outfit if we have enough after grocery.
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:06 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:13 PM
To different government offices handle food stamps & child welfare
ashley9603
by RunningMomma on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:13 PM

I dont see why they would take him.He has food a place to sleep,roof over his head and is in no danger.I would see about getting some assistance just until things are improving.You are doing the best that you can.If there are any extras you can go without so you have some left over each month I would start with that.

OompaLover6969
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:14 PM
My kids would LOVE to live in a camper year round. Seriously. LOL!

Don't be to stubborn or worried to get PA help! ;). Do what's best for your DS.
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periwinkle163
by Silver Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:14 PM

 I don't know for sure, but it doesn't seem much different than a trailer to me.

Vcoskey
by Silver Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:14 PM
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Children get taken away when they are in immediate danger - cannot be fed/clothed/abusive situations or drugs. If you are providing for your son, they will NOT take him! Even parents who are homeless don't lose their kids - PA provides resources!

Go get the help you need and deserve - the only issue night be your lack of address - but they can make suggestions for that, too!
MzShorty787
by on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:15 PM
Well I don't know a whole lot about the law esp in ur area but I do know getting fs has nothin to do w/ ur living quarters just mostly ur income, plus they factor in rent bills etc.
mysticalmalissa
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:15 PM
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What state are you in?

Lots of families live in campers with no issues here in TN. Its actually more common then typical "trailer" parks now.

firespurity
by Ruby Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:15 PM
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he needs a bed or futon, that he can sleep in alone. That's the only thing that could even be reportable on this situation. They generally don't care if they don't use the bed, as long as it's available to the child.

Quoting Anonymous:

I wanted to make the bedroom comfortable for him and my mom but we couldn't afford it so i just got my mothers old comforter



Quoting firespurity:

I'm not sure, I do think he needs a sleeping space dedicated to him, even if he doesn't use it.
moroccanmommy
by Silver Member on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:16 PM
As long as he is fed, sheltered..bathed and healthy.in school if old enough...no they cant take him away. There are kids living in shelters with moms....
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:16 PM
Thank you

Quoting OwlNuggets:

God, I hope not.
You sound like you are honestly trying your very best and I'm sure even if CPS ever DID get involved they would see that too.
Having said that, I did some checking for you on Google and actually managed to find this guide CPS uses to TRAIN their agents and nothing in it says anything about campers being illegal for children to live in.
There just must be running water and working facilities.


Here, check this out for yourself:

http://www.actionchildprotection.org/documents/2009
/pdf/August_Judging_
Home_Conditions_as_a_Present_Danger_1_(1).pdf

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