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they can't take my son can they? pics update #2!

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I was lurking around a troll post last night and our situations were identical. I'm divorced with an 8yo DS living with my mom and dog in a camper.

So while browsing the comments, someone said she could have her son taken away for living in that situation. Then poof.

Here's our situation.

Xdh and i divorced while i was pregnant. He wants nothing to do with Ds and that's fine. I don't get cs and he isn't on the birth certificate.

I make 650 a month and only have 200 to pay for gas, laundry, groceries and toiletries. We suck at budgeting so something usually ends up not being purchased (gas, lotion, cell phone... Stuff like that). Any tips?

I spend maybe 20 bucks a month on the dog. My mother used to be a professional groomer so she handles the grooming and we buy his food in bulk. His vet bills are usually free.

We don't get fs because I'm afraid they'll take my ds. I don't want to stay in the ghetto (raised there and living where we live for a fee us much better).

Mom is the one to take care of ds if I'm working overtime (i work from 6am to 6pm regular hours). She picks him up and drops him off at school and if I'm too tired, she helps him with homework.

Everything is usually done on a schedule so no one is late.

I'm Showered and out of the house by 5:30. My mother drops me off and she makes it home at 6. she showers at 6 and has ds up, showered and out of the house by 7:30. Then she cleans and looks for work. I doubt she'll find anything because of her age. I told her i wanted her to start couponing or grooming dogs from the camper and she agreed.

i start a teaching job in August btw.

I just want to know if my son can be taken away? My sister said that she would call cps on me if I'm not able to provide for my son. Can she take him? And ask for budgeting tips until i can work.


Pictures in reply.


Update:

I would like to personally thank you women for easing my mind.

So lets address a few common questions:
I work a rotation schedule with two other people and i do not make min. wage. I know what they're doing is wrong but it's the only job i was able to get. My hours posted were just average hours that I often work.

This weeks schedule:
Monday - 6am to 7pm
Tuesday - Wednesday no work
Thursday - 6am - 4pm
Friday - 6am - 1pm
Saturday - Sunday - no work I rarely work on Sundays unless i request to be on the bathroom clean up crew. Most Sundays are usually when they request workers because must of the crew I'd at church. I got the job through church and we attend church every Sunday.

Today, my mother and I got a pullout couch free on craigslist. We are donating the old one. We vacuumed the entire thing, cleaned it and sprayed it to smell good. We are giving him the bedroom and putting the smaller TV in his room.

I spent twenty dollars on his new bedding with his favorite character on there (Batman) with the matching pillows and put little posters everywhere and put his personal DVD collection in there. My mom and I are sharing the pullout couch. I put a feather top thing for my mothers comfort.

Mom found a free DVD player (the small portable ones). It had a cracked screen but the plugs still worked so we just plugged it into the smaller TV.

He'll be here in ten minutes and I'm excited. We're going to play monudo(homemade board game) and surprise him after dinner.

Update 10pm:
We cooked a stretch meal (meaning it lasts a few days). It was grilled chicken cubed, sauteed onions and green bell peppers with white rice. It's ds' favorite meal. So anyway after that, we helped him with his homework and watched Batman beyond on DVD while we played monudo(it's basically the Sims in board game form). At 8, my mom and I did the big reveal. He was soooooooooo happy! He loved it and wanted his alone time to watch the Batman beyond movie. My mom and I are watching the golden girls box set and i just feel soo happy!

Update #2
I was not able to go to go through all of the replies because my mother and I cleaned the church for 250. Its a large church.
I saw a few replies telling me to get cs and fs
Ex husband was physically and verbally abusive and spiteful. So no. I'm not going to file for child support because he'll try and take my son from me. I'll die before I allow my son to grow up with that monster.

My mother is planning on filing for fs tomorrow.

Someone said ds would love watching real TV. Ds is perfectly fine with watching DVDs. We have a large collection of DVDs (movies and entire series of shows). He have the entire fox cartoon specials thing (family guy, Simpsons, Cleveland show, Bobs burgers and American dad) as well a many other cartoon and regular shows/movies so in sure he'll be fine.

The church has free school supplies for him (crayons, makers, pencils, etc.). We've traded in all of his winter clothes for summer (shorts, sorry sleeve t-shirts, etc.) and they even have us a free pair of shirts which we throughly washed.

The air conditioner is hooked up and working amazingly. I now have enough money for my mom (she's actually 64) to buy cooler clothes in a few days. I might buy a new outfit if we have enough after grocery.
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 29, 2013 at 10:06 PM
Replies (691-700):
AshTysMom
by on May. 11, 2013 at 4:09 PM

I don't see anything wrong at all with your living arrangements. I do, however think you should seriously rethink the idea that an 8yo should be allowed to watch shows like Family Guy and American Dad. We watch them(but not Cleveland Show or Bob's Burgers so can't comment on those), and laugh our asses off, but the hell if my kids will, at least not before 13-14. The Simpsons, maybe. But, there's not much even remotely appropriate for that age in those shows.

ChewyBrownies
by ActuallyBeyoncè on Jan. 16, 2014 at 5:21 AM
I remember this post!
ChewyBrownies
by ActuallyBeyoncè on Jan. 16, 2014 at 5:21 AM
Bump and shit
krissy920
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2014 at 5:24 AM

sounds to me like you are working your ass off to provide i dont think they would take your son. my  x sils house looks like its from hoarders her pantry was almost bare  she didnt work,  got fs  wic and every other thing you could imagine.. and when cps came they let the kids stay because there was food in the house.

Sammi20
by Silver Member on Jan. 16, 2014 at 5:34 AM

Just wanted to say, It sounds like you are a great mom and trying your best to do everything you can for your DS.

If you move to OR (I'm not sure Where you are... you can do All of that in a really nice 2 br Apt.. When we moved here we were paying 545.. prices went up cause we got new landlords to 645 a month.. but this in Bend.. Beautiful town! In Redmond, Prineville, Madras and other places around here you can even rent a House for 600 a month. Then spend 80 on food at the dollar tree: Balogna, break, goldfish crackers, cookies, ice cream.. they have a lot of stuff.. not healthy but you are full... then they have Food boxes.. You could see if they have that locally too if you go to one they usually give you a list of more places and you can go to All of them in a day if you want.. then you have to wait a month.Get FS for you and your mom and get her on disability... and apply here for a good job. There are plenty if you try hard enough. You'd do great! xD

IUMer
by Bronze Member on Jan. 16, 2014 at 5:36 AM

Update us, please! Did you get the teaching job? How are you all doing?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 16, 2014 at 5:44 AM

your camper is nicer than my apartment!!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 16, 2014 at 5:47 AM

That's a pretty sweet camper!

Katkinson
by Silver Member on Jan. 17, 2014 at 3:02 PM

no. 

Not an ideal situation, but he won't get taken away. 

He is well cared for.  If ANYTHING, cps would tell you you have to find another place and help you with that.  They wouldn't just take him away. 

weeping_angel
by Don't Blink on Jan. 17, 2014 at 3:05 PM

 I'd live there

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