The baby (1.5) went to his paternal grandmother. I saw him whenever I wanted and usually I had him five days a week.
We'll call paternal grandma, S.
S saw that I was doing very well in getting back on my feet and I was also paying her $50/week (all I could afford while saving for a house). I also gave her $500 of my tax return,, pretty much all of it. She started to see me get close to getting the baby back permanently and she needed to do something to stop me.
She went and filed for child support. They ordered I pay $400 a month even though I had baby 70% of the time. They also retro-acted it and I owed $3000 on top of that.
Well, I picked up a night job, worked my ass off, and paid her and paid on my arrears. About three months later, I won in court and my baby came home.
I'm still paying her arrears a year later. Baby's father never calls, neither does she. She was on assistance because here, if a child is with a third party, the state covers ALL expenses. I know she didn't come out of pocket and when baby needed extra, I gave her money. Again, I had him most of the time.
I am so frustrated with the arrears. I will owe her money until I'm 50. What's worse, is she truly doesn't care for her grandson like she said she did because she hasn't called, emailed, or anything.
I want to call her and tell her to go f*&$ herself and void the arrears. Let by gones be by gones ! All you're doing is taking $150/mo AWAY from your grandson and his family!how much can you REALLY care?!