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Is it ok leave someone while they are trying to heal?

Anonymous
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My husband is alcoholic with many emotional issues. He's off work due to a nervous breakdown and doesn't plan to back. I've posted this before I know. His medication keeps him drugged up and he goes off on me any time I confront him about anything. He hits himself in the face threatens suicide if I leave him and constantly puts me on guilt trips for his issues. He's had trouble holding jobs in the past but when I bring that up he says I've been working for two years and I've had a nervous breakdown have some compassion. When I ask what we will do for money when his disability runs out he replies ask his family for money. He tells me I'm a horrible person when we argue also says he wants a divorce. I feel happier while at work because I don't have to deal with the chaos that is my life. I feel so guilty for wanting to leave but I've been here for almost 10 years. He's seeing a psychiatrist but I'm so tired of this. Which is more damaging to the kids leaving or staying????
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:40 PM
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peanutsmommy1
by Ruby Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:41 PM
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staying with someone abusive is far worse IMO

Mommy2b2many
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:41 PM


this

Quoting peanutsmommy1:

staying with someone abusive is far worse IMO



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:42 PM
Is being abusive?


Quoting peanutsmommy1:

staying with someone abusive is far worse IMO


jojo_star
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:42 PM

I would say staying would be more damaging. 

Roxygurl
by Emerald Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:43 PM
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You need to see a therapist. 

What he's doing is emotional blackmail and it's not good for you or your children. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:43 PM

It's more damaging to the kids to stay.  Get the hell out - fast.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:43 PM
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He's not trying to heal.

l0nely
by Silver Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:43 PM
Put him in a nut house until he gets better. Get a separation.
sweetnspacey
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:44 PM
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I would leave. You have one life to live and you're not responsible for his happiness. But you are responsible for yours :)

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 30, 2013 at 1:45 PM
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Ive considered that


Quoting l0nely:

Put him in a nut house until he gets better. Get a separation.

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