This is not what you think. It is not about someone on PA or anything like that.
I am friends with a couple. The husband is working two jobs and the wife is not working at all. Their kids are 11 and 14. Her husband has asked her to get a job but she refuses. She said her job is to be a mother....(just to be a mother...not to keep house...that should be a family thing since the family lives there).
She is constantly complaining about not having the money to do the things she wants to do and that her DH needs to get a better job. He is constantly complaining that she spends too much money and needs to get a job so that he can spend more time at home OR.. she needs to keep house, cook dinner, and take care of that kind of stuff.
I am not getting involved...but everytime I hear her complain I just want to tell her to go get a damn job. Instead I just tell her that I don't want to get involved.