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Teen Mom 2- military families please help me out

Anonymous
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I just started watching teen mom 2 from last night, and military moms are the benefits that great? I mean in every episode kailyn always says about the benefits but nothing about how she loves javi, so are the benefits that great? 

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:41 PM
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Pink.Sunshine.
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:42 PM
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I swear she only married for his benes.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:44 PM

bump

MomTo2Boys12
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:45 PM
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Agreed.

Quoting Pink.Sunshine.:

I swear she only married for his benes.

jojo_star
by on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:45 PM

The benefits are ok, not great, but better than nothing. 

jlbelknap35
by Jessica on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:45 PM
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Not really, you get health insurance but they don't do crap for you for eyes and dental. I've been half temped to get a second insurance for those. Other then that not really. You don't even have the job security that you used to either.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:47 PM
Free healthcare for herself, her child won't be covered unless her new husband adopts him. Free gym, library, no tax at the bx and commissary.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:47 PM
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Not military, but I kind of feel that she is jumping into it more for stability than love. I don't doubt that she loves him, but they have both made it clear they are only marrying right away because he's going into the military. This is why divorce rates are so high, we don't think before we wed. Plus, why does Isaac get benefits when it's not Javi's kid?

LiesLiesLies
by Platinum Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:48 PM
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Health insurance. That's it.

Which is good...that bitch needs meds.
zianneaaliyah
by 4ever LMFAO on Apr. 30, 2013 at 3:50 PM

It's all about perception and rank. 

Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Ruby Member on Apr. 30, 2013 at 4:06 PM
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Yes and no.

To a little girl, they would seem great.

To the average (enlisted, as I haven't been married to an officer) military wife, I'd say they are what they are.

 We get health insurance, but sometimes we have to jump through hoops to get that one doctor we need.  (Like a dermatoligist for a nasty rash that isn't going away, or a chiropractor after a car accident) just like most other insurance plans.  I would in no way shape or form ever complain about my insurance, I'm damned grateful for it.  But we don't always get access to top doctors like some think.  For many things, we are directed on base, where active duty has first priority.  That means I could show up at my appointment time, wait 2 hours, and then be rescheduled if active duty personnel needed care before me.  "Specialists" can consist of retired military doctors who took a couple hour class and came right back to the same clinic.  But it is possible to get great care.  You just sometimes have to run a 3 ring circus to get to that point.

We get housing.  But only 1 in 10 has to be up to code.  Which means in many locations, only 1 in 10 houses are comfortable, fully functioning, and without problems most of the time.  I have lived in houses full of mold, houses where you couldn't safely drink the water, bug infestations, etc.  And we couldn't do ANYTHING to fix the problem ourselves, we HAD to call maintenance and wait for them to drag their feet and get it fixed.  And "fixed" usually meant some crazy half-assed solution that would keep it running for another few weeks before busting again.  You are also mandated to move with very short notice, like recently at Offutt the military housing started demolishing old houses and building new.  A lot of people were told to pack it up and move down the street, then a few months later shifted back down.  If you live on base, 100% of your housing allowance goes to the company that runs it.  Even if you are topped rank, making over $1,000, you pay 100%.  They justify it by saying it makes up for the low ranking who only get a couple hundred.  Communism at its best!  Still, it is a house, and if you work at it, you can make it a home as needed.  But you'll always wish for your dream home.

Life insurance is amazing, but you NEVER want to have to use it!  A smart military member would take as much life insurance as they can.  DH is insured through the military for $400,000, plus a side policy we took out on our own.  The downside to this is sometimes the company is a little bitch about paying.  So he died in a motorcycle accident?  And he wasn't wearing the mandated gloves?  No insurance, he was reckless!  So he died in a car crash, and was ejected from the vehicle?  No insurance, he must not have been buckled!  Yes, I HAVE seen them do this!  MIA?  He has to be MIA for X time frame before we'll consider him "deceased" no matter WHAT his Command says about the situation.  Good luck surviving until then, the military isn't paying as they assume he's dead, we aren't paying as we assume he's alive.  Every time, the lawyers managed to get the grieving family the money.  But it was a terrible process they never should have had to go through.

We do get tax-free shopping on base shops.  That is nice.  Yes, there is a limited selection of brands, but you make do.  OK, so I can't get my favorite brand of cottage cheese, but I can get a different brand for $2 cheaper, and it tastes well enough.  Sometimes they carry neat foreign brands that you can't find elsewhere.

We get allowances for food and cost of living, but when you factor in that our base pay in some areas is way below poverty, it just makes sense.  One might make $3000 a month in Nebraska, which is just fine.  But in California they wouldn't make it at all on that, so they adjust the income.  In the end, it usually helps one to break even.

They recently took away Tuition Assistance in the sequester, which is AWFUL.  Many military jobs DO NOT transfer to the civillian world easily without additional classes.  But we DO get the option to "test out" of a class.  For example, if you are a math whiz, you can rent a book, study for X weeks, then take the final tests.  If you pass, you get the college credit for the class without having to actually go through it all.

In the end, yes they are great.  No, they aren't great enough I'd stay with a man I didn't love over it.  Like ALL job benefits, they tend to have give and take.  We get some nice things, but four of my friends just died in a plane crash in Afghanistan.  All those nice things we get are really there to entice people to put their lives on the line.  And as I paid my respects to my fallen friends, I couldn't help but wonder if the benefits are really all that great compared to the risk of losing the love of my life in a conflict.

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