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I made daughter throw ALL of it away! edit under pic in OP- final edit on added

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 Tiara is 9 and has forgotten who is boss around here and push me over the edge this morning! her wearing makeup has been a constant battle! I didnt get any makeup for her, other people give it to her as gifts @@ and she has also gotten into MY makeup! she keeps putting it on darker and darker and we have had many discussions about it! In march she snuck some of her and MY makeup into her suticase to go visit grandma after i told her no makeup. I find it in her backpack, she knows she is NOT to wear it at school!

this morning we were getting ready to go to lunch and my cousins house and I told her 'NO makeup". i know she heard me because she told me I am ruining her life, lol! she was taking too long to get ready so I opened her bedroom door and sure enough she was putting makeup on!

i emptied her bedroom trach can and told her to put ALL of her makeup in it! told her that if i find ANY hidden she would be grounded a day for each item, in addition to being grounded right now for an undetermined amount of time til I calm down and can think rationally!

its not just the makeup thats an issue, but an overall attitude of her doing whatever she pleases no matter what I say. so its time for "attitude adjustment 101"

Tiara throwing away her makup! she didnt want a picture taken but I told her that she would need it as a reminder!

edit: she got to keep her nailpolish, lol! I told her if it went on her face she had to throw it away. she asked if she could keep chapstick and i agreed to that.

I try my best to let her express herself! she has permenate hair color stripes in her hair that I put in myself! she has 2 piercings in each ear. she ownes two pair of combat boots. she dresses like a girly girl one day and a punk rocker the next, lol! but the whole point here is that she is breaking rules and sneaking. I have compromised on the makeup before saying she could wear it at home and out sometimes if it looked natural. but again she breaks the rules! I dont have time for her scrub her face as we need to walk out the door! I specifically told her "no makeup" today and she heard me and chose to be defiant! this is NOT the first time! she has had waaay too many chances on this topic!

last edit: I cant keep up, lol! she is aware that breaking the rule is the problem, not the makeup, as I told her about some other things that she has been defiant about lately that will change too. she understood what she did was very wrong. she went about cleaning her room etc with no lip. she layed down on my bed and chatted with me afterwards. when i dropped her off at her dads at 6pm she gave me plenty of hugs and kisses... she got over it quicker than yall did, lol! her 10th bday is the end of july. I think I might get her some LIGHT eyeshadow and LIGHT tinted lipgloss and go over the rules and consequences again. I am not trying to stop her from having fun, experimenting etc. she just has to learn that rules are rules and if she doesnt like something then we need to discuss it, but breaking the rules out right will not end well!

by on May. 4, 2013 at 2:39 PM
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by Silver Member on May. 8, 2013 at 9:22 AM

I think you did the right thing. And they idea of trying again after her birthday is a good one. :)

by on May. 8, 2013 at 1:22 PM
Yes , and as a kid she likes makeup. Big fucking deal. Could be much worse things.

Quoting Anonymous:

She doesn't have to wear makeup at 9 to be a highly regarded makeup artist. If she is truly passionate about it, she will be passionate about it at an age appropriate time. Kids need to be KIDS.

Quoting manicMOM_DLC:

Lady, if make up is something shell Loves and is passionate about, why not encourage her in a CONSTRUCTIVE way? Whose to say that girl won't grow up to be a highly regarded makeup artist?

Quoting Anonymous:

For a 9 year old?! get a grip lady.

Quoting manicMOM_DLC:

i don't know...

my mom would not let me wear make up either and the more I snuck the harder she cracked down.  which made me sneak more.

may I suggest taking her to department store and asking one of the reps to teach her how to do make up in a way that might please you both.  then even buy her a key item or two.

also, I don't really see the problem in heavy makeup.....

by Bronze Member on May. 9, 2013 at 2:59 PM

Good for you for sticking with your punishment. I like the fact that you made her throw it away. You need to tell your family NOT to buy her makeup right now that she is not following the rules on how to wear it. And you need to tell your family that if they see her wearing makeup they need to tell you. (She might have hid some at Grandma's or Dad's house.)

Also I would not buy her any makeup right now. Give it some time first. Otherwise you are confusing her. You are telling her it is okay to wear makeup which is what you just punished her for doing..

by Silver Member on May. 28, 2013 at 12:53 AM

good for you!

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