I have a new baby and a daughter who is almost 5 and a step son who is 3 in a month. I feel like my SS is reverting to act like a baby since the new baby is here. He asks to be carried like the baby. Or wants to sit in my lap when I'm holding the baby. He does not want to use the toilet he asks for a pull up but calls them diapers. He just woke up and started whining for juice like the baby does. He calls himself the baby and try's to steal all the attention. I looked up what to do about him and it's like they say things like "if they ask for a bottle or diaper you might want to give them one until they feel secure." I refuse to support his desire to revert. I love him and I tend to him and we play and he is happy. Why do I read these new outlooks on parenting and it just seems like ways to spoil and coddle your child not raise them to be a independent person.
I had a BF who's mothers style of parenting was to coddle (like if he had a freak out as a kid over wanting a toy she would either hug and love all over him or give him candy to stop crying or just buy it.) he was the worst person I ever dated he was incapable of independence and struggled to live alone. In fact her 32 year old daughter still lives with her. And the 32 year old treated her like shit and so did her son. And she would just let them, because they are just her babies acting out. I say punish them and make that 32 year old move out.. Punish does not mean spank all the time btw. I'm just saying if your kids freaking out over a toy you don't give them cuddles you tell them no and find a way to let them know that behavior is no acceptable.
What do you think? Also maybe advice on my SS?