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Women who AREN'T ok with porn...... ETA

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Why not?
Since many moms are ok with it, why aren't you? :)

*I have no problems with you not liking porn, as long as its agreed upon between you and your partner :)
by on May. 5, 2013 at 4:25 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on May. 5, 2013 at 4:43 PM
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i think its morally wrong to be in a commited monogamous relationship and looking at other naked people doing sexual things....  the only thing that should be turning you on is your partner

Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on May. 5, 2013 at 4:43 PM
The women are always my complete opposite so I couldn't even begin to please his real taste in women and thinking about it makes me want to die because ill never be enough
Dippydoomomof2
by on May. 5, 2013 at 4:45 PM
Because I feel like I can't compete with them. I am not flexible, skinny or perfectly waxed. Because I feel like he will find someone better than I am and leave his family behind.

I'm sure he watches it.
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DevinAnnesmom
by Sarah on May. 5, 2013 at 4:46 PM
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Lusting after someone other than your spouse is cheating in your heart in my opinion.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on May. 5, 2013 at 4:46 PM
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Because they can't stand the fact that it's natural and healthy to be attracted to other humans.
harehelper
by on May. 5, 2013 at 4:49 PM

Actually no, that isn't my reason for not wanting him to watch porn.

Quoting Anonymous:

Because they feel like their spouse is lusting after the woman and comparing her to porn stars. Which is ridiculous in my opinion, do they lust after the man too?


firespurity
by Ruby Member on May. 5, 2013 at 4:49 PM
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I come from a scientific standpoint. The science says it can interfere with intimacy and create doubts within the relationship ( for the man). Increased exposure to pornography is directly related to increased sexual violence, sexual dissatisfaction, cheating, and erectile dysfunction.

Men survived just fine before porn was publicly available, and before the internet made it a blink of an eye away. They don't need it, and honestly this attitude makes men who aren't even interested ashamed to admit it, because they are ashamed of not being manly enough.

I've never dealt with it being a problem in any relationship, but seriously everyone I've been with wasn't interested.

This science mainly applies to men. I've read it actually benefits women emotionally. Maybe if I were with someone that partook I wouldn't care, but I know the science behind it, and its not favorable.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on May. 5, 2013 at 4:50 PM

Because I'm a control freak and I can't stand the thought of him looking at another woman's picture because I am so crazy insecure!  Oh ya it damages family values and all that jazz too!

harehelper
by on May. 5, 2013 at 4:50 PM

Yeah, being attracted to other people has sure made a lot of marriages more healthy. Or not.

Quoting Anonymous:

Because they can't stand the fact that it's natural and healthy to be attracted to other humans.


sugarcrisp
by Ruby Member on May. 5, 2013 at 4:52 PM

I watch porn and all I can imagine is myself being that woman and that man being my DF.

He's told me the same, although apparently he just prefers the pics I've sent him over porn. Pics don't do it for me; I need to watch something.


Quoting Anonymous:

I find it inappropriate for married people to lust after others that way.  When a man pleasures himself to porn, it is because he is imagining being the man he sees doing the actions he sees to the woman he sees.  I don't think that he should be wishing to engage in sex acts with other women.  It is also proven to be detrimental to the marital relationship most of the time.  

My husband didn't really see this my way until his porn use damaged our marriage- our respect for each other, his libido, my trust.  He really has come around to my way of thinking after seeing how it can affect us.  I'm not saying that this is the case for everyone, but it is for us.  The only healthy way for us to use porn is not at all.  Once we discussed it, we agreed that it needed to change.  Since it did, our marriage is much better.

There is no one size fits all answer to this issue.



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