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Women who AREN'T ok with porn...... ETA

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Why not?
Since many moms are ok with it, why aren't you? :)

*I have no problems with you not liking porn, as long as its agreed upon between you and your partner :)
by on May. 5, 2013 at 4:25 PM
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sugarcrisp
by Ruby Member on May. 5, 2013 at 4:59 PM


I think it's really disgustingly cute that you felt the need to try to make me feel like shit with your comment.

Insecure much?

Quoting Anonymous:

I think it's really cute that you believe that.


Quoting sugarcrisp:

I watch porn and all I can imagine is myself being that woman and that man being my DF.

He's told me the same, although apparently he just prefers the pics I've sent him over porn. Pics don't do it for me; I need to watch something.


Quoting Anonymous:

I find it inappropriate for married people to lust after others that way.  When a man pleasures himself to porn, it is because he is imagining being the man he sees doing the actions he sees to the woman he sees.  I don't think that he should be wishing to engage in sex acts with other women.  It is also proven to be detrimental to the marital relationship most of the time.  

My husband didn't really see this my way until his porn use damaged our marriage- our respect for each other, his libido, my trust.  He really has come around to my way of thinking after seeing how it can affect us.  I'm not saying that this is the case for everyone, but it is for us.  The only healthy way for us to use porn is not at all.  Once we discussed it, we agreed that it needed to change.  Since it did, our marriage is much better.

There is no one size fits all answer to this issue.







Jessy613
by Diamond Member on May. 5, 2013 at 4:59 PM

I don't think they "try" to ban it..but once the wife finds out about it, and they keep doing it over and over....thats when it becomes a problem..

Quoting Anonymous:

Don't they hide it because their wives try to ban it?

Quoting Anonymous:

Because porn always becomes a problem.

Men end up hiding it behind their wives backs and then it becomes a huge problem and causes problems in marriages...


FL2AK
by on May. 5, 2013 at 5:00 PM
Not at all. I have very healthy self esteem and feel very confident and sexy. Finding someone attractive and being sexually attracted and aroused by someone are two separate things.


Quoting Anonymous:

Because they can't stand the fact that it's natural and healthy to be attracted to other humans.

sugarcrisp
by Ruby Member on May. 5, 2013 at 5:00 PM
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Is it weird that I wish I could see from all the angles you can in porn?

Instead I have to imagine we are the people I see in porn. Lame. :P


Quoting Kittykatx:

Plus theres only so many angles that you can recieve of your mans junk before it gets samey lol

Quoting sugarcrisp:




Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on May. 5, 2013 at 5:00 PM
You can't turn off attraction, is my point. You can pretend you're above biology, if you like.

Quoting harehelper:

Yeah, being attracted to other people has sure made a lot of marriages more healthy. Or not.

Quoting Anonymous:

Because they can't stand the fact that it's natural and healthy to be attracted to other humans.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on May. 5, 2013 at 5:01 PM
I disagree. Whatever works for you, though. =)

Quoting FL2AK:

Not at all. I have very healthy self esteem and feel very confident and sexy. Finding someone attractive and being sexually attracted and aroused by someone are two separate things.




Quoting Anonymous:

Because they can't stand the fact that it's natural and healthy to be attracted to other humans.

LucyHarper
by on May. 5, 2013 at 5:01 PM

Neither my husband or I are okay with porn. I simply didn't like it, and when I met my husband and he gave me more information, now I'm strongly against it. My husband's mother was/is a porn actress and a stripper, he grew up around that stuff and she did nothing to shield him from what was going on. Most porn actresses don't like what they do, they do it because they feel they have to or feel they aren't good for anything else. Most are on drugs to cope with it and have been sexually abused at some point in their lives. Most are assaulted physically or sexually while on the job. Thats not sexy to us. I also feel it gives people an inaccurate perception of sex.

Snapdragon88
by Ruby Member on May. 5, 2013 at 5:02 PM
I don't know if my dh watches it and I don't care.

But if a woman is uncomfortable with it then her husband should respect that. Period.
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FL2AK
by on May. 5, 2013 at 5:03 PM
I can look at a man and think that he is attractive without being sexually attracted to him.


Quoting Anonymous:

I disagree. Whatever works for you, though. =)



Quoting FL2AK:

Not at all. I have very healthy self esteem and feel very confident and sexy. Finding someone attractive and being sexually attracted and aroused by someone are two separate things.






Quoting Anonymous:

Because they can't stand the fact that it's natural and healthy to be attracted to other humans.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on May. 5, 2013 at 5:03 PM
Oh, we don't need it, but it's fun. Just like toys and lingerie. =)

Quoting FL2AK:

We don't need to look at other people naked or having sex in order to have an amazing sex life. We do just fine with just the two of us. My husband feels the same way.
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