I haven't been to too many wedding nor have I been in many weddings. Well at the last minute my brother asked my Dh to be a groomsmen. Well they had a meeting today and I found out from Dh that he has to pay my brother $70 so he can pay for the stuff for the bachelor party. Yes my brother is planning his own bachelor party and wants everyone in the wedding party to pay him $70 to pay for the bachelor party. I also found out that he has to go get fitted for his tux this week and it's going to cost $320. That's $390 that We are out and We didn't benifits from it at all. Oh and not to mention We have to get them a wedding gift and I have to get my sil a gift bridal shower and fork out money for the rehearsal dinner. This wedding is turning into a money pit. Is this how weddings are?