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I guess that makes me the bi**h of the family

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
So my distance niece is getting married and makes a fb status and tags my sisters and I as well as all of her great Aunts for jewelry to "use" in a broach bouquet.
My grandmother didn't have much jewelry by the time of her passing. My grandfather had pawned most of it off due to his drinking problem. So what little was is left is very treasured.
I used to watch my niece's children for her and we had an agreement that she'd pay me $50 a week to watch her 2 kids. (She would also have to provide their snacks). 4 months went by and no payment. It was always one excuse or another. So I politely told her that I couldn't watch them anymore.
Now she is asking to use jewelry and make no mention of loaning or barrowing it. I did reply with I love you and dont take this the wrong way but you've got to be fu**ing nuts to think that I would let her use my grandmother's jewelry. I didn't speak for my sisters or my Aunts. But I told her that this is how I felt. I wished her the best of luck in finishing her bouquet and that she should start looking at thrift shops, garage sales or even estate sales to find some cheap costume jewelry.
But now I'm the bitch for speaking my mind. If I can't trust her with getting a check to me how can I trust her with a cherished family heirloom?
Was I wrong?
Posted by Anonymous on May. 6, 2013 at 1:24 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 6, 2013 at 1:39 AM
One of my family members told me that I was acting like a bitch and that I needed to stop it.

Quoting SpiritedWitch:

First, I have never heard of using jewelry as a bouquet. That is unusual. 

Second, hell no I would not let anyone use family heirlooms for a bouquet. I don't care who they are. That is just dumb. Much better idea to use cheap costume jewelry.

Honestly, your family should respect that you don't want to hand over your treasured pieces and move on. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 6, 2013 at 1:40 AM
I would've done the same thing. She hasn't proven herself to be reliable or stick to her word since she never paid you. You were kind enough to keep watching her kids even though she kept dodging payments. So there's no way she can expect to be trusted with an heirloom.


Quoting Anonymous:

I told her that I didn't want to take the chance of it getting lost in the mail. Especially now that we don't live in the same state.



Quoting Anonymous:

You were absolutely right! She sounds irresponsible and inconsiderate. You would've never seen that jewelry again if you gave it to her.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 6, 2013 at 1:42 AM
You weren't wrong. Probably could have said it more nicely or privately messaged her and kept it off FB. Though she initiated the conversation through FB so I can't have much sympathy for her there.
VinVanMom
by Silver Member on May. 6, 2013 at 1:43 AM

It's her ploy to get the jewelry what a scammer..of course she doesn't mention returning it..she might even pawn it if she can't afford daycare..

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 6, 2013 at 1:43 AM
I told my family that they could let her "use" their jewelry that they got from my grandmother but never responded to me after that.

Quoting SpiritedWitch:

First, I have never heard of using jewelry as a bouquet. That is unusual. 

Second, hell no I would not let anyone use family heirlooms for a bouquet. I don't care who they are. That is just dumb. Much better idea to use cheap costume jewelry.

Honestly, your family should respect that you don't want to hand over your treasured pieces and move on. 

acrogodess
by Ruby Member on May. 6, 2013 at 1:43 AM

Nope, not at all. Fuck that shit.

hautemama83
by Emerald Member on May. 6, 2013 at 1:45 AM
Wait..you posted that on her FB status? Where everyone can see?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 6, 2013 at 1:46 AM
I know that I could have worded it better but honestly I don't think she would have gotten the point. She spoke to my sil just a few days ago and was talking about using costume jewelry but now she wants heirloom jewelry.

Quoting Anonymous:

You weren't wrong. Probably could have said it more nicely or privately messaged her and kept it off FB. Though she initiated the conversation through FB so I can't have much sympathy for her there.
FL2AK
by on May. 6, 2013 at 1:47 AM
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You could have handled that better.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 6, 2013 at 1:47 AM
Yes, she tagged me in her comment and I replied.

Quoting hautemama83:

Wait..you posted that on her FB status? Where everyone can see?
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