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I guess that makes me the bi**h of the family

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
So my distance niece is getting married and makes a fb status and tags my sisters and I as well as all of her great Aunts for jewelry to "use" in a broach bouquet.
My grandmother didn't have much jewelry by the time of her passing. My grandfather had pawned most of it off due to his drinking problem. So what little was is left is very treasured.
I used to watch my niece's children for her and we had an agreement that she'd pay me $50 a week to watch her 2 kids. (She would also have to provide their snacks). 4 months went by and no payment. It was always one excuse or another. So I politely told her that I couldn't watch them anymore.
Now she is asking to use jewelry and make no mention of loaning or barrowing it. I did reply with I love you and dont take this the wrong way but you've got to be fu**ing nuts to think that I would let her use my grandmother's jewelry. I didn't speak for my sisters or my Aunts. But I told her that this is how I felt. I wished her the best of luck in finishing her bouquet and that she should start looking at thrift shops, garage sales or even estate sales to find some cheap costume jewelry.
But now I'm the bitch for speaking my mind. If I can't trust her with getting a check to me how can I trust her with a cherished family heirloom?
Was I wrong?
Posted by Anonymous on May. 6, 2013 at 1:24 AM
Replies (21-30):
NBean311
by Chivette on May. 6, 2013 at 1:50 AM

I would have told her through private message, rather than where others could see it, but other than that... I think you handled it fine. 

hautemama83
by Emerald Member on May. 6, 2013 at 1:50 AM
Now that I think you're wrong for. You could've handled that a lot better than what you did. Perhaps sending a pm, and using a little tact.

Quoting Anonymous:

Yes, she tagged me in her comment and I replied.



Quoting hautemama83:

Wait..you posted that on her FB status? Where everyone can see?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 6, 2013 at 1:51 AM
True, but what is done is done. Nothing I can do to change that.

Quoting FL2AK:

You could have handled that better.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 6, 2013 at 1:52 AM
True, I could have pm'd her but she could have also pm'd me.

Quoting hautemama83:

Now that I think you're wrong for. You could've handled that a lot better than what you did. Perhaps sending a pm, and using a little tact.



Quoting Anonymous:

Yes, she tagged me in her comment and I replied.





Quoting hautemama83:

Wait..you posted that on her FB status? Where everyone can see?
Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 6, 2013 at 1:56 AM

Hindsight is 20/20. Sure you could have told her in a nicer way, but we all say things impulsively sometimes. No way would I ever lend out a priceless family heirloom. Announcing this on facebook wasn't a good idea on her part either. Makes her seem unappreciative and ignorant of the sentimental value of your family heirlooms.

SpiritedWitch
by Froggie on May. 6, 2013 at 1:56 AM
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Family can be such assholes if you go against the grain. Trust me, that is one subject I am very familiar with. I am the bitch and the black sheep of my family. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I told my family that they could let her "use" their jewelry that they got from my grandmother but never responded to me after that.

Quoting SpiritedWitch:

First, I have never heard of using jewelry as a bouquet. That is unusual. 

Second, hell no I would not let anyone use family heirlooms for a bouquet. I don't care who they are. That is just dumb. Much better idea to use cheap costume jewelry.

Honestly, your family should respect that you don't want to hand over your treasured pieces and move on. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 6, 2013 at 2:03 AM
Didn't want to risk it getting lost in the mail. And one f the pearls on my earring keeps slipping off. I keep getting it reset but I don't think it would be a big deal to her if that itty bitty pearl would be lost. It's really not worth the risk to me.

Quoting Anonymous:

Hindsight is 20/20. Sure you could have told her in a nicer way, but we all say things impulsively sometimes. No way would I ever lend out a priceless family heirloom. Announcing this on facebook wasn't a good idea on her part either. Makes her seem unappreciative and ignorant of the sentimental value of your family heirlooms.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 6, 2013 at 2:05 AM
I would rather piss off the entire family than risking losing the last thing I have of my grandma's. I know some ladies are not so lucky when it comes to cherished things from loved ones.

Quoting SpiritedWitch:

Family can be such assholes if you go against the grain. Trust me, that is one subject I am very familiar with. I am the bitch and the black sheep of my family. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I told my family that they could let her "use" their jewelry that they got from my grandmother but never responded to me after that.



Quoting SpiritedWitch:

First, I have never heard of using jewelry as a bouquet. That is unusual. 

Second, hell no I would not let anyone use family heirlooms for a bouquet. I don't care who they are. That is just dumb. Much better idea to use cheap costume jewelry.

Honestly, your family should respect that you don't want to hand over your treasured pieces and move on. 


vegaswife2011
by Emerald Member on May. 6, 2013 at 2:09 AM

I don't think you're wrong at all. I do think you could have worded it nicer. I wouldn't trust her one bit.

SpiritedWitch
by Froggie on May. 6, 2013 at 2:18 AM

Hopefully they will come to their senses and understand how you feel about loaning out treasured heirlooms. I wish you luck. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I would rather piss off the entire family than risking losing the last thing I have of my grandma's. I know some ladies are not so lucky when it comes to cherished things from loved ones.

Quoting SpiritedWitch:

Family can be such assholes if you go against the grain. Trust me, that is one subject I am very familiar with. I am the bitch and the black sheep of my family. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I told my family that they could let her "use" their jewelry that they got from my grandmother but never responded to me after that.



Quoting SpiritedWitch:

First, I have never heard of using jewelry as a bouquet. That is unusual. 

Second, hell no I would not let anyone use family heirlooms for a bouquet. I don't care who they are. That is just dumb. Much better idea to use cheap costume jewelry.

Honestly, your family should respect that you don't want to hand over your treasured pieces and move on. 



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