Last night we had a party to announce my pregnancy....and we ended up not announcing it. D
Last night we had a little family get together party type thing.
The plan was to announce that in pregnant.
We wanted to announce it with everyone there because it will be my mil and fils first biological grandchild.
I have a 7 year old. She was 3 when DH and I married. So no one in his family got to be a part of the whole baby thing. I mean, they've spoiled her rotten and love her to death but I know it would be a big deal to them, especially mil, to have a grand baby that she got to see as a baby. And I didn't want to hurt anyone's feeling by not telling them first so we wanted to do it all at once.
Well......I'm 27 weeks pregnant with our son.....
We wanted to tell 8 weeks ago, but sil went to the doctor for what she thought was a really heavy period and found out she was having an early miscarriage, she didn't know she was pregnant but they had been ttc
So I figured we had plenty of time.
I wanted to give her a little time before Announcing.
I told her in advance what the party was for. She didn't tell her husband or anyone else
Everyone got to the party.
We had everything set up
I go to the kitchen to get the bowl of punch and find sil bawling.
I tried to calm her down.
She is still devestated and begged me not to talk about it or announce it that night.
Well I felt bad. I'm overly emotional. She had me crying too. SO I talked to DH and we didn't announce it.
I've done great at covering my stomach in clothes so that I don't look pregnant.
I was a size 12
I didn't want to buy maternity clothes so I just found jeans at goodwill that were large enough to go over my tummy
But..look at my stomach....it's impossible to hide it now..I'm surprised no one asked anything last night but I have always had a chubby belly and I wore a flowy dress....
Sil is apperantly angry with me and thinks that I shouldnt have a family get together to announce it.
I don't want to hurt her.
But if we don't tell them soon then they will end up finding out when they get a call telling them I'm in labor.
I kind of think sil is being a little selfish. And I I kinda feel bad for thinking that.
I know she's hurting and I can't imagine how much. But doesn't the family deserve to know that they are going to be welcoming a new member in?
We can't keep hiding it.
I am CLEARLY pregnant. At this rate they won't know until the baby is here!
I know this is hard for sil. But this is suppose to be a fun and exciting time for us and our family and we haven't even been able to tell anyone
I don't want to be insensitive. But I feel like I've gone above what I needed to do to accommodate sil.
Whether she likes it or not this baby is coming. I know she's grieving,
But I'm pregnant and think the family deserves to know.
What would you do???.
eta im announcing t6nite over a dinner