Do I not have the right to be upset with my mother? UPDATE
My mother and I have never seen eye to eye. On anything. No matter how wonderful a guy he is, she's hated every guy I've dated. No matter the decisions I make, that would even make any other mother proud, I'm a fuck up; never good enough. Today she had the gall to tell me she thinks I have bi-polar and borderline personality disorder. I researched it all and I don't fit the mold at all. Not to mention I have spent time (long term) with therapists and I'm pretty sure if they thought I had one/both of these, they'd have said something.
I don't know what bothers me more. The fact that, if I don't seek help to either have it diagnosed or ruled out, she'll seek custody of my son because I'm 'putting him in danger' (my son has never been in danger; he's safe, loved, well cared for with structure and stability and routine) or the fact that she said all of this in front of my son. He's seven! I told her this is not a conversation to be having in front of my child. Her response? It's not like he understands. You're right, he doesn't. But he's at that age where he asks questions. Maybe not right away, but in a week or even a month from now, he'll bring it up. He'll ask questions; questions I should not have to answer. Next to that, with the way she was talking, it sounds bad (understandable) so now he could easily have it in his head that Grandma thinks there's something wrong with Mommy. Furthermore, he's at the age where he repeats things, and this is not something his friends, teachers, or the neighbors need to hear when he's outdoors playing.
Am I seriously in the wrong for thinking she should have approached me for this conversation without my child around?
UPDATE: My mother just texted me that she apologized for bringing this up in front of my son. That she sometimes underestimates his intelligence and ability to understand things and question what he doesn't understand. She did go on to say that she stands by what she said as a whole.