I've been separated for a year now all is pending the divorce. We've lived apart for a year on great terms. I just started to date again. Nothing serious nothing I was planning just sort of happened. The guy I'm dating is awesome and a friend and we do fun things together like go running or hiking, stuff like that. My ex and I are very open and honest with each other I've never lead him on in any way. Its over...
So, tonight was my ex's night with our kids. I called to say good night to the kids and ex asked me what I was doing, and I said going to get take out for me and XXX (the new guy). The guy I'm dating is actually at his office and I was planning to stop by and eat it there with him. No big deal.
I shit you not, 4 minutes later my ex calls back and he puts our youngest on the phone begging to come home. So I say absolutely because this is the first time this has happened.
Then it occurs to me he just used my child against me. I could care less if my plans with someone else are broken, its not about that. What pisses me off is he used our kid. I then asked him later and he admitted it that he didn't want me to hang out with the new guy because he assumed that we where hanging out at my house. So, he brought the kids over at 9pm on a freaking school night!
I guess I need to figure out how to prevent this from happening again. He tried to say that he would just take the kids tomorrow. I said hell no, you can wait until your time rolls around again. It never occurred to me to lie or be vague about what I was doing, I didn't think I had anything to hide. I'm just so pissed that he used the kids and I don't wand them to think that its ok to come home at 9pm whenever they are with their dad.
What are your thoughts?