It is so frustrating that we aren't married... .. .
In a nutshell, I became unexpectedly pregnant 3 months after getting into a relationship with a man I've known for 6 years. 3 months after our first son was born, it occurred to me that he needed a little brother. (I'd always wanted a baby brother growing up). I was blessed with another son and I'm irritated that their father and I still aren't married, technically.
He doesn't see a need to get married, but even if I accept the fact that we aren't wed, there are issues in today's society that make it all-important.
If he were to ever leave me, I would actually receive less child support because both of my babies are by the same man. I fear that alimony would be my only relief until I could afford to raise two children on my own. (I have no family other than a retired uncle in Florida and a mentally disabled older sister).
When he was filling out insurance paperwork for his new job one day, he just happened to tell me that his sons would be the beneficiary of his life insurance policy. ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!? I exclaimed! and said "So, I have to work and support two children while I grieve losing you until they are 18 and then they get your insurance money?" Whatever. Who cares.
I am paranoid going out with my sons with no ring on my finger. I hate putting 'single' on important paperwork. At tax time, our little family of 4 receives less of a return because I am a dependent rather than a wife. I think it's about $1,000 less - which would really come in handy raising two sons. (Infant and toddler boys now).
I stopped pressuring him, it doesn't get me anywhere. I never should have had sex & babies out of wedlock. Maybe that doesn't seem realistic but there it is.
(I will also have to change my name so I can share the last name of my children).. Grr..