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tomorrow could kill me

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i'm sitting here chainsmoking, and stuffing my face with king sized candy bars and mnt dews. my kids are in bed, and i'm netflixing greys anatomy. its 11:30, and I should be asleep, but I cant sleep. we have a big day tomorrow. tomorrow is the day when I get put on trial. my kids and I will wake up early, and head to the courthouse, where I could lose them. I could lose my kids tomorrow, and it will kill me. I've spent the last hour, trying to decide what to wear. what will say " im responsible, please don't take my kids". a month ago, me and my mom were best friends. she stood next to me, defending my parenting in court against my ex and his family. tomorrow my mother will testify against me. how did we get here? how the hell did this happen? I don't know. I don't know why. I just know that my mother over the last week, has managed to convince people that i'm the next casey Anthony. i'm a mom who works full time. I don't have friends, I don't go out, I have had 2 drinks in the past year and a half. my kids are happy and healthy and straight A kids with perfect attendance. but I don't have money, and my exes family does. where I live living together unmarried is a sin. it doesn't matter if you have been best friends for 5 years, unmarried is an immortal sin. and I live with my boyfriend, unmarried. the allegations against us from my mother are horrific. they even used the word satanic when referring to how I punish my kids. im trying to be strong, smile for my kids, but my heart is beyond broken. I haven't cried, I haven't cracked. trying to breathe. cps is coming with me to court tomorrow. i'm praying its enough to save us. my mother, who is one of the most ungodly people I know, is at a prayer church meeting tonight. and then tomorrow she will go and take an oath. raise her right hand and lie about me. her only daughter. her best friend up until a month ago. its going to kill me. I don't know how to survive this.
Posted by Anonymous on May. 8, 2013 at 11:46 PM
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RainbowBrite111
by on May. 8, 2013 at 11:57 PM
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Another thing, make sure you bring the name and number of the pediatrician that the children see. And call him first thing in the morning and explain what is happening. When it is YOUR turn to speak, explain your side, and also tell the doctor the children have seen the same pediatrician for however long, and give the judge the name and number. Peds HAVE TO report any SUSPECTED abuse, and your ped hasn't reported a darned thing. The judge can call him and speak with him, or her, and find out that there has never been a reason for him to call CPS and he has never seen one thing he thought might be abuse, neglect or any sort of mistreatment.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 8, 2013 at 11:59 PM
How do you know she is an awesome mom? She COULD be the worst in the world. I'm not saying you are op. but we don't know. And IF you are a good mom I hope you leave the courthouse with your kids and go out to celebrate. IF you are a bad mom I hope you loose them

Quoting rvb146:

Times like these are where you realize just how strong one person can be. I really wish that you didn't have to go through this. And I seriously hope that you win this case. Your an awesome mother and money should not be the reason that you lose your children.
agrisham13mom
by Silver Member on May. 8, 2013 at 11:59 PM
This

Quoting RainbowBrite111:

Wear a long skirt or a pair of black slacks. Trust me, shave, and wear pantyhose. Wear a nice pair of shoes and a respectable top. Something that covers your boobs. Pull your hair into a neat bun or ponytail, or it your hair is short, make sure you style it and dry it, no going in with a wet head. Put on a small amount of light colored makeup, nothing that stands out or is too flashy or dark. Wear a bra under your top, and wear underware. Seriously. No flashly long hanging earrings, either studs or nothing. NO other jewelry. Tonight, make sure you know what you are going to say, be as calm and confident as possible. Make sure you do not interrupt your mother if it is her turn to speak. Tell yourself silently, you will have your chance. The judge will not like you if you interrupt your mother. Don't attack your mother let her be the one to attack you. She will look like the liar and the ass if you remain composed while she is attacking you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 9, 2013 at 12:02 AM
Chainsmoking in the house? Make sure people at court know that too. To me you don't sound like a fit mom on the surface!
RainbowBrite111
by on May. 9, 2013 at 12:02 AM
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My dad is a lawyer, I am giving her the same exact advice my high powered attorney father would give her. :)


Quoting agrisham13mom:

This

Quoting RainbowBrite111:

Wear a long skirt or a pair of black slacks. Trust me, shave, and wear pantyhose. Wear a nice pair of shoes and a respectable top. Something that covers your boobs. Pull your hair into a neat bun or ponytail, or it your hair is short, make sure you style it and dry it, no going in with a wet head. Put on a small amount of light colored makeup, nothing that stands out or is too flashy or dark. Wear a bra under your top, and wear underware. Seriously. No flashly long hanging earrings, either studs or nothing. NO other jewelry. Tonight, make sure you know what you are going to say, be as calm and confident as possible. Make sure you do not interrupt your mother if it is her turn to speak. Tell yourself silently, you will have your chance. The judge will not like you if you interrupt your mother. Don't attack your mother let her be the one to attack you. She will look like the liar and the ass if you remain composed while she is attacking you.



RainbowBrite111
by on May. 9, 2013 at 12:03 AM
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While I disagree with smoking in the house, we cannot just start stealing children and sticking them in foster homes because of smoking. Give me a break.

Quoting Anonymous:

Chainsmoking in the house? Make sure people at court know that too. To me you don't sound like a fit mom on the surface!



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 9, 2013 at 12:05 AM
im not chainsmoking in the house. im on my laptop, we have wireless, and im running around like a chicken with my head cut off. with the front door open, yes, I can see the tv and hear it.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 9, 2013 at 12:07 AM
We certainly don't want the kids to be in Forster home! But maybe their dad's house is smoke free and that might be a better place to live. Thank u!


Quoting RainbowBrite111:


While I disagree with smoking in the house, we cannot just start stealing children and sticking them in foster homes because of smoking. Give me a break.


Quoting Anonymous:

Chainsmoking in the house? Make sure people at court know that too. To me you don't sound like a fit mom on the surface!





rvb146
by Gold Member on May. 9, 2013 at 12:07 AM
Out of all the other replies you comment on mine and think that I'm the op replying on my own post? From what I read on her post she seems like a good mother. There are times where people take good mothers to court trying to make them look bad.
The op is obviously very worried about this issue. Trying to comfort someone who is reaching out for help shouldn't be a problem. Maybe she is a horrible mom, I don't decide that. The court will tomorrow.


Quoting Anonymous:

How do you know she is an awesome mom? She COULD be the worst in the world. I'm not saying you are op. but we don't know. And IF you are a good mom I hope you leave the courthouse with your kids and go out to celebrate. IF you are a bad mom I hope you loose them



Quoting rvb146:

Times like these are where you realize just how strong one person can be. I really wish that you didn't have to go through this. And I seriously hope that you win this case. Your an awesome mother and money should not be the reason that you lose your children.

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RainbowBrite111
by on May. 9, 2013 at 12:09 AM
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Op - Don't worry about them. Seriously time to get ready. Did you read what I told you about what to wear? About not interrupting your mother? Etc? And the ped? Seriously, I don't care if your mother calls you a crackhead whore who allows her pimp to watch her kids, you do not interrupt her. You wait your turn, you keep your cool, you will have a chance to answer her. Don't call your mother any names. Keep CALM. Answer the judges questions. Think before you speak, seriously. If it sounds bad, change your wording. You can tell the judge you have never been a prostitute, but do not turn around and call your mother names. Let her be the crazy one. Seriously. The judge will see it if you give your mother a chance to show it. My father is a very high powered attorney one of the best, and he would give you the exact same advice I am.

Quoting Anonymous:

im not chainsmoking in the house. im on my laptop, we have wireless, and im running around like a chicken with my head cut off. with the front door open, yes, I can see the tv and hear it.



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