I just realized I have less than 3 months left until my sons 1st birthday. I should just be happy but I'm really scared too. His biofather wanted nothing to do with me as soon as I said I was pregnant. We started to work it out, he cheated on me. We started to work it out again when I was 5 months pregnant and then he got a new girlfriend and she didnt want him to have anything to do with me or my son and he agreed!
He has never seen my son, not even a picture, doesnt even know his name. He blocked my phone number right after the baby was born because I texted him asking for his address so my son could get Medicaid and we fought for hours and he refused. (My son did end up getting medicaid but now we have to do a paternity test, mine and my sons is done, and they have to find him) We havent talked since then. I made a 2nd facebook and have messaged him twice in the almost year he hasnt spoken to me just asking him to TALK to me about what he wants to do! Medicaid is now considered a part of Welfare in my state and I am on food stamps so THE STATE is going after him for child support (I told him that. No response.).
I want to file abandonment since he has never seen my son and never given me a penny. But can I even do that if I'm on welfare? I doubt it :/ I absolutely 100% need my sons medical insurance!
Also, what if he tries to go for custody once they start demanding child support, will he get it? I have saved texts with him saying he doesnt want him and telling me to fuck off. But he has a 6 year old daughter he gets every other weekend (I heard he just went for 50/50 and was denied) too. He works as a cook and cannot drive from an OUI and hasnt driven for years but his *fiance* drives him around.
I dont need your judgement, I've beaten myself up enough. I just need solid advice.