Sooooooo, DH and I went to marriage counseling yesterday for the first time. At the start of the session, he said that the fact that we are at counseling makes him feel one step closer to divorce. He said he doesn't see it as I do - which is that this is to help strengthen our marriage and to finally get through a couple of issues we have been dealing with without resolve for more than 10 years. This took me by surprise.
He said that if we can't deal with our problems on our own, then we have a bigger issue than the "issue" if you know what i mean. I completely agreed with that and said that we do have a bigger problem and I want to fix it - not give up on it! He was being really difficult about talking to the woman, but he did agree to go back again mext week. I'm just afraid this is not going to work if he can't just open up. He did open up a little at the end, and I did feel like I said what I needed to. But I ended up crying through the whole session. I just don't know if we should even do this. I do NOT want my marriage to end. I hope he truly doesn't want that either. I just don't know.
Anyone else have any experivence with this? How did it work - no work for you? Should I keep trying?