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Well. That was awkward. The STB ex-wife just came by.... ---Quick edit added!!! --- Edit #2 added

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Yes. His soon to be ex wife came to our house today.

They have been separated for 2.5 years, I have lived here with him for over a year. They were in no hurry to divorce because all she wanted to do was take his mothers & his money. It kind of sat and festered for a while, they didnt speak for about a year and back in January.... BAM... she contacted him and let him know he needed to get divorce papers to her before the 15th of May.

Stoked, he had them drafted the next day, they got sent to her the middle of February. She took it upon herself TODAY to bring them back to him to make final adjustments. No phone call. Nothing. She just showed up.

He has been friendly, he has been extremely accommodating to her. She moved out of this house 2.5 years ago. She pulls up in the driveway like she fucking owns the place and just WALKS in the house. Seriously?

FIRST he wasnt even here, I was in the bedroom finishing up laundry and I hear "Hello? I'm home! *giggle*"
I thought it was one of our friends and I said while walking out "Bitch please, then get your ass up here and help me put his shit away, then!" and about fell backwards. I didn't recognize this person. I yelled "WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU?" .... and it clicked. I'd seen ONE picture of her before, and I about had a heart attack.

She said "Hi ____, I'm ____. Shacking up with my husband going well?"

First. We had no idea this female even knew I existed. A little lookie-loo at facebook would tell her, but we were honestly under the impression that she didn't care or do that shit.

Second. She's been gone for over 2 years! I've been here for the last year and a half. This is my home now. My name has been added to the mortgage (her name was NEVER on it, he purchased the house BEFORE they were married), he & i make the payments. He & I have made this OUR home! And she just WALKS in. Are you fucking SERIOUS.

THIRD... There is a rumor that she is ENGAGED to someone else! Which is why she suddenly wants the divorce. Which, honestly, was Boyfriends plan. He didnt want her to try and take the things HE worked for BEFORE they were married(the house, his vehicles, etc), So he was patiently waiting for her to find someone else.

As i'm standing there just gaping at her from the top of the stairs, not sure what the hell to even do or say, Boyfriend bursts in and does the same thing. Now, get this: She goes to him and tries to hug and KISS him. He lightly pushed her away and asked her to go outside. I'm still like this at the top of the stairs:

Like, Just in complete shock. haha

They go outside and I ran to the kitchen window to eavesdrop. Because, I'm nosy.... haha

She's all "honey, baby, this and that" .... are you kidding me? What game is she playing? Granted, their marriage was a complete wreck (according to EVERYONE that was around) they were still friends, I am okay with that. I am okay with the fact that maybe in the future they could be friends. But, really? After 2.5 years... she is just going to show up full of honey, babies?

What an emotional wreck for him. My poor guy. He is so mind fucked right now. I'm sort of keeping my distance. After the hour long ordeal was over, I told him I loved him and was here for him if he needed anything. He's taken a walk and such. We usually take walks together in the evening, so I know he is really upset if he went alone.

I just don't know what to do. I'm making jokes, but I really don't know what to do at this point.


He was not calling her 'baby' or 'honey' in their conversation outside. He was being very respectful towards her. She was howling about how they belong together and he was calmly telling her that they should've never gotten married just to please their mothers and that he thought that she had realized that almost 3 years ago when they decided to separate.

They do not have children.

She has no rights to OUR house.

He is upset because he carries a lot of guilt that his marriage did not work out. He is a very faithful man and never wanted to be divorced in his life. (Granted no one ever 'wants' to get divorced in their lives, i guess) We have amazing communication and are connected very strongly in every way. Anyone can see it. He is upset because he's worried that this situation today hurt me more than I am showing or letting on. He's scared that she is going to be an issue in the next few months. 

Well, thats all I can think of for this update.

Thank you for the support and advice :-) 

-- Edit #2

Alright, so that is what I get for going to bed and not checking my CM in the morning. haha

I sifted through most of the replies and they're about the same. To those offering empathy & support, thank you very much! To those being negative, well, I would say I am sorry, but I am not.

I'm not a whore. (sings the LMFAO song) I. Am Not. A. Whore.

We are not Christians, so I haven't really read up on what the bible says is okay or not okay for us to do. But I will get right on that.

It's certainly not  a lie that he put me on the mortgage. He (we) refinanced the house last fall. She was never on the mortgage because she had crap for credit and according to him (and his brother and mother) said she always acted fairly shady about the house. He is 35 and has been very lucky financially, which is the only thing that has saved his credit from being destroyed. (He is an entrepreneur and 'flips' businesses)

And, the locks don't need to be changed. They were changed back when he asked her for the divorce. And I believe they were changed again after the door was broken when he & his brother were rough housing a bit too hard. (They're BIG boys haha)



Posted by Anonymous on May. 9, 2013 at 10:51 PM
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by Anonymous 2 on May. 9, 2013 at 10:52 PM
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Well if her name is on the mortgage it is her house....

Thats what you get for shacking up with a married man

by Anonymous 2 on May. 9, 2013 at 10:53 PM
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I love when the other woman tries to act like she's the wife...

If you want my pity/sympathy you aint getting it

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 9, 2013 at 10:53 PM

It's not and never was ;-p

Quoting Anonymous:

Well if her name is on the mortgage it is her house....

Thats what you get for shacking up with a married man

by Anonymous 3 on May. 9, 2013 at 10:54 PM

...was the door unlocked?

by Anonymous 2 on May. 9, 2013 at 10:54 PM
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Her husband lives there... it IS her house.

by Anonymous 4 on May. 9, 2013 at 10:54 PM
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Nothing like sloppy seconds.

by on May. 9, 2013 at 10:55 PM
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Wow that is crazy of her to just walk in like she left last week.

by on May. 9, 2013 at 10:56 PM
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You can't legally remove her name from the mortgage without her knowing and agreeing. So with her name on the mortgage, it's her house.
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by LMAO on May. 9, 2013 at 10:56 PM
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Wow! That's messed up! I think it's much better to laugh instead of cry :)

by on May. 9, 2013 at 10:56 PM
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Doesn't sound good for you. Could he still be in love with her?

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