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Well. That was awkward. The STB ex-wife just came by.... ---Quick edit added!!! --- Edit #2 added

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Yes. His soon to be ex wife came to our house today.

They have been separated for 2.5 years, I have lived here with him for over a year. They were in no hurry to divorce because all she wanted to do was take his mothers & his money. It kind of sat and festered for a while, they didnt speak for about a year and back in January.... BAM... she contacted him and let him know he needed to get divorce papers to her before the 15th of May.

Stoked, he had them drafted the next day, they got sent to her the middle of February. She took it upon herself TODAY to bring them back to him to make final adjustments. No phone call. Nothing. She just showed up.

He has been friendly, he has been extremely accommodating to her. She moved out of this house 2.5 years ago. She pulls up in the driveway like she fucking owns the place and just WALKS in the house. Seriously?

FIRST he wasnt even here, I was in the bedroom finishing up laundry and I hear "Hello? I'm home! *giggle*"
I thought it was one of our friends and I said while walking out "Bitch please, then get your ass up here and help me put his shit away, then!" and about fell backwards. I didn't recognize this person. I yelled "WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU?" .... and it clicked. I'd seen ONE picture of her before, and I about had a heart attack.

She said "Hi ____, I'm ____. Shacking up with my husband going well?"

First. We had no idea this female even knew I existed. A little lookie-loo at facebook would tell her, but we were honestly under the impression that she didn't care or do that shit.

Second. She's been gone for over 2 years! I've been here for the last year and a half. This is my home now. My name has been added to the mortgage (her name was NEVER on it, he purchased the house BEFORE they were married), he & i make the payments. He & I have made this OUR home! And she just WALKS in. Are you fucking SERIOUS.

THIRD... There is a rumor that she is ENGAGED to someone else! Which is why she suddenly wants the divorce. Which, honestly, was Boyfriends plan. He didnt want her to try and take the things HE worked for BEFORE they were married(the house, his vehicles, etc), So he was patiently waiting for her to find someone else.

As i'm standing there just gaping at her from the top of the stairs, not sure what the hell to even do or say, Boyfriend bursts in and does the same thing. Now, get this: She goes to him and tries to hug and KISS him. He lightly pushed her away and asked her to go outside. I'm still like this at the top of the stairs:


Like, Just in complete shock. haha

They go outside and I ran to the kitchen window to eavesdrop. Because, I'm nosy.... haha


She's all "honey, baby, this and that" .... are you kidding me? What game is she playing? Granted, their marriage was a complete wreck (according to EVERYONE that was around) they were still friends, I am okay with that. I am okay with the fact that maybe in the future they could be friends. But, really? After 2.5 years... she is just going to show up full of honey, babies?

What an emotional wreck for him. My poor guy. He is so mind fucked right now. I'm sort of keeping my distance. After the hour long ordeal was over, I told him I loved him and was here for him if he needed anything. He's taken a walk and such. We usually take walks together in the evening, so I know he is really upset if he went alone.

I just don't know what to do. I'm making jokes, but I really don't know what to do at this point.



Edit--

He was not calling her 'baby' or 'honey' in their conversation outside. He was being very respectful towards her. She was howling about how they belong together and he was calmly telling her that they should've never gotten married just to please their mothers and that he thought that she had realized that almost 3 years ago when they decided to separate.

They do not have children.

She has no rights to OUR house.

He is upset because he carries a lot of guilt that his marriage did not work out. He is a very faithful man and never wanted to be divorced in his life. (Granted no one ever 'wants' to get divorced in their lives, i guess) We have amazing communication and are connected very strongly in every way. Anyone can see it. He is upset because he's worried that this situation today hurt me more than I am showing or letting on. He's scared that she is going to be an issue in the next few months. 

Well, thats all I can think of for this update.

Thank you for the support and advice :-) 


-- Edit #2

Alright, so that is what I get for going to bed and not checking my CM in the morning. haha

I sifted through most of the replies and they're about the same. To those offering empathy & support, thank you very much! To those being negative, well, I would say I am sorry, but I am not.

I'm not a whore. (sings the LMFAO song) I. Am Not. A. Whore.

We are not Christians, so I haven't really read up on what the bible says is okay or not okay for us to do. But I will get right on that.

It's certainly not  a lie that he put me on the mortgage. He (we) refinanced the house last fall. She was never on the mortgage because she had crap for credit and according to him (and his brother and mother) said she always acted fairly shady about the house. He is 35 and has been very lucky financially, which is the only thing that has saved his credit from being destroyed. (He is an entrepreneur and 'flips' businesses)

And, the locks don't need to be changed. They were changed back when he asked her for the divorce. And I believe they were changed again after the door was broken when he & his brother were rough housing a bit too hard. (They're BIG boys haha)

FOR THE LOVE OF SHIT:

SHE DID NOT HAVE A KEY, THE DOOR WAS UNLOCKED. IT WAS THE MIDDLE OF THE DAY.

Posted by Anonymous on May. 9, 2013 at 10:51 PM
Replies (541-550):
Anonymous
by Anonymous 91 on May. 11, 2013 at 2:10 AM
Shhhhhhhhhh nobody cares
Quoting Anonymous:

*sniffle*

Whats the next, Sensei?


Quoting Anonymous:

So you admit you are a rude whorey bitch. That's the first step.
Quoting Anonymous:

Aw, shucks! I didn't think about that. What a rude whorey bitch.

I'll be sure to show her before she moves back in.


Quoting Anonymous:

Anonymous
by Anonymous 95 on May. 11, 2013 at 3:47 AM
2 moms liked this
I don't get why everyone's hung up on who is on the mortgage...she was gone, he moved on.
The X obviously kept tabs on him, she walked in to get his attention & cause drama for the divorce... I've been a similar situation, Just don't let her get under your skin & if she acts this dumb again, put her in her place. Let him deal with this drama..it is his drama. Do what your heart says, give him space & be by his side, he sounds like a guy that doesn't want you to deal with his past, a good guy.
Good Luck, we have been trying to get her to sign divorce papers for 2years!!
BeingJaneAusten
by on May. 11, 2013 at 3:54 AM

My advice being a married women for 32 years; Put your foot down on this man and ask him were you stand with him! If i were you i would have never allowed for him to take a walk PERIOD! Something odd is going on and you need to fine out! ASAP! Owning property together does not mean a dam thing if he is having doubt's! Good luck with this guy he sounds like he has no back bone to stand up to the wife.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 96 on May. 11, 2013 at 4:01 AM
1 mom liked this
Sorry dear but you will always be the "other" woman.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 97 on May. 11, 2013 at 4:06 AM
Weird he is so upset over this, but if you know why then just talk to him.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 98 on May. 11, 2013 at 6:25 AM
Clearly says her (other woman) was not on the mortgage



Quoting Anonymous:

Well if her name is on the mortgage it is her house....

Thats what you get for shacking up with a married man


TheSuperWomom
by on May. 11, 2013 at 6:28 AM
Lol @ for the love of shit. I hope all works out.


Quoting Anonymous:

Yes. His soon to be ex wife came to our house today.

They have been separated for 2.5 years, I have lived here with him for over a year. They were in no hurry to divorce because all she wanted to do was take his mothers & his money. It kind of sat and festered for a while, they didnt speak for about a year and back in January.... BAM... she contacted him and let him know he needed to get divorce papers to her before the 15th of May.

Stoked, he had them drafted the next day, they got sent to her the middle of February. She took it upon herself TODAY to bring them back to him to make final adjustments. No phone call. Nothing. She just showed up.

He has been friendly, he has been extremely accommodating to her. She moved out of this house 2.5 years ago. She pulls up in the driveway like she fucking owns the place and just WALKS in the house. Seriously?

FIRST he wasnt even here, I was in the bedroom finishing up laundry and I hear "Hello? I'm home! *giggle*"
I thought it was one of our friends and I said while walking out "Bitch please, then get your ass up here and help me put his shit away, then!" and about fell backwards. I didn't recognize this person. I yelled "WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU?" .... and it clicked. I'd seen ONE picture of her before, and I about had a heart attack.

She said "Hi ____, I'm ____. Shacking up with my husband going well?"

First. We had no idea this female even knew I existed. A little lookie-loo at facebook would tell her, but we were honestly under the impression that she didn't care or do that shit.

Second. She's been gone for over 2 years! I've been here for the last year and a half. This is my home now. My name has been added to the mortgage (her name was NEVER on it, he purchased the house BEFORE they were married), he & i make the payments. He & I have made this OUR home! And she just WALKS in. Are you fucking SERIOUS.

THIRD... There is a rumor that she is ENGAGED to someone else! Which is why she suddenly wants the divorce. Which, honestly, was Boyfriends plan. He didnt want her to try and take the things HE worked for BEFORE they were married(the house, his vehicles, etc), So he was patiently waiting for her to find someone else.

As i'm standing there just gaping at her from the top of the stairs, not sure what the hell to even do or say, Boyfriend bursts in and does the same thing. Now, get this: She goes to him and tries to hug and KISS him. He lightly pushed her away and asked her to go outside. I'm still like this at the top of the stairs:


Like, Just in complete shock. haha

They go outside and I ran to the kitchen window to eavesdrop. Because, I'm nosy.... haha


She's all "honey, baby, this and that" .... are you kidding me? What game is she playing? Granted, their marriage was a complete wreck (according to EVERYONE that was around) they were still friends, I am okay with that. I am okay with the fact that maybe in the future they could be friends. But, really? After 2.5 years... she is just going to show up full of honey, babies?

What an emotional wreck for him. My poor guy. He is so mind fucked right now. I'm sort of keeping my distance. After the hour long ordeal was over, I told him I loved him and was here for him if he needed anything. He's taken a walk and such. We usually take walks together in the evening, so I know he is really upset if he went alone.

I just don't know what to do. I'm making jokes, but I really don't know what to do at this point.



Edit--

He was not calling her 'baby' or 'honey' in their conversation outside. He was being very respectful towards her. She was howling about how they belong together and he was calmly telling her that they should've never gotten married just to please their mothers and that he thought that she had realized that almost 3 years ago when they decided to separate.

They do not have children.

She has no rights to OUR house.

He is upset because he carries a lot of guilt that his marriage did not work out. He is a very faithful man and never wanted to be divorced in his life. (Granted no one ever 'wants' to get divorced in their lives, i guess) We have amazing communication and are connected very strongly in every way. Anyone can see it. He is upset because he's worried that this situation today hurt me more than I am showing or letting on. He's scared that she is going to be an issue in the next few months. 

Well, thats all I can think of for this update.

Thank you for the support and advice :-) 


-- Edit #2

Alright, so that is what I get for going to bed and not checking my CM in the morning. haha

I sifted through most of the replies and they're about the same. To those offering empathy & support, thank you very much! To those being negative, well, I would say I am sorry, but I am not.

I'm not a whore. (sings the LMFAO song) I. Am Not. A. Whore.

We are not Christians, so I haven't really read up on what the bible says is okay or not okay for us to do. But I will get right on that.

It's certainly not  a lie that he put me on the mortgage. He (we) refinanced the house last fall. She was never on the mortgage because she had crap for credit and according to him (and his brother and mother) said she always acted fairly shady about the house. He is 35 and has been very lucky financially, which is the only thing that has saved his credit from being destroyed. (He is an entrepreneur and 'flips' businesses)

And, the locks don't need to be changed. They were changed back when he asked her for the divorce. And I believe they were changed again after the door was broken when he & his brother were rough housing a bit too hard. (They're BIG boys haha)

FOR THE LOVE OF SHIT:

SHE DID NOT HAVE A KEY, THE DOOR WAS UNLOCKED. IT WAS THE MIDDLE OF THE DAY.


Madismom29
by on May. 11, 2013 at 6:36 AM

You handled this the way I would have. The look of "what the hell was that" frozen on my face. I would not have been upset, I would have eavesdropped and I would have said the same thing to my SO. Be ready for the crazy train because apparently its in town. Good Luck with everything, your SO needs your support and I say he is lucky to have you. You and him will be just fine, his STB Ex will hopefully take her 3 ring circus somewhere else in the very near future.

mama-sita
by on May. 11, 2013 at 6:42 AM

Well fuck.  I think I'd do one of two things. 

1) Chase the bitch out of my house with a baseball bat.

or

2) Laugh hysterically at her calling MY MAN honey and baby!


I'm sorry your man was so upset OP.  He sounds like a good guy and remarkably like my SO.  His ex wife lives in New York, about 2000 miles from me.  Thank god.  She's already sent nasty emails through facebook though.  lol  My SO was MORTIFIED. 

As for the haters, you and he did nothing wrong with moving on and finding love together even though the legal document was not dealt with.  It's a peice of fucking paper, for bloddy sake!!!  I'm happy that he was able to find someone better, stronger, saner and funnier than hell!  That picture in the middle of your OP was fucking fantastic!!!

my4kids274
by Platinum Member on May. 11, 2013 at 6:44 AM

Is he legally separated from his wife?  This is just one heck of a train wreck 

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