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I feel like my mother's day was ruined...

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Or maybe I'm just being over-sensitive. All along I've been telling my husband I didn't want anything for mother's day, all I wanted was a day to hide out in my bedroom to write. I enjoy writing stories as my hobby. I might not be the best at it but it's what I enjoy. However, with kids it's very difficult to find time to write. Plus we are in the process of buying our first home so money is tight and I didn't want him spending money on something I didn't need. I just wanted a day to myself to do what I enjoy. I figured he could sit in the living room and watch movies with the kids or go in the back yard to play to keep them occupied while I went to our bedroom. Then today he goes to the store and bought his mom a gift. He started asking me when he could bring it over to her so I said I didn't know, when do you want to? The subject was dropped until later while I was at the store where he called me and had this "brilliant" plan. In the morning he'd make breakfast then afterwards he'd go to his mom's house while the kids sat in the living room by themselves and watched movies. Because then I can go to our room with no interruptions and everything will be great! Problem? The kids will fight, get into stuff, bug me even if told not to, have issues that need to be solved immediately, need to be fed, need movies put in the Bluray, need snacks, need to be supervised while playing outside, and so on. Doesn't exactly make it easy to write with all of that going on, which is why I don't write on any other day. He'll be at his moms for hours chatting with his mom and dad then come home around dinner time which I'll have to make. There goes my restful day of me time. He does this every year where he thinks since it's mother's day he should spend the entire day with his mom while I'm home by myself doing the same thing I do every single day...take care of the kids. Now he's mad at me because he doesn't get why it's such a big deal. Am I being unreasonable?

Edit: wow! I left to eat dinner and there's a bunch of comments. I don't think I've ever had this many comments on a post. To answer questions, we have a lot of kids. His parents don't do well with all the kids, especially if I'm not there to help. He did offer to take a couple of them but I'll still have most of them.

Today was our family day. We barbequed and spent time with the kids in the backyard blowing bubbles with huge bubble wands and rode bikes and worked on getting all of our camping gear out of the garage because we're going camping next weekend. I do enjoy spending time with my kids but I'm a SAHM and I am with them all day long. Our daily schedule is crazy. Even if some go to school, I still have the younger ones at home and I'm constantly running around to appointments or activities. Most days I have 3-5 places to run the kids to. I just wanted a small break.
Posted by Anonymous on May. 11, 2013 at 9:09 PM
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by on May. 11, 2013 at 9:15 PM

He can take the kids out for the day. Shame on him!


by Silver Member on May. 11, 2013 at 9:15 PM

Tell him to take the kids. I'd be a little mad too. Don't blame you there.

by Anonymous 4 on May. 11, 2013 at 9:16 PM
I think your throwing a hissy fit.
by on May. 11, 2013 at 9:16 PM
I agree have him take the kids.
But I will be spending Mothers day doing my ODD birthday and her party. I love the years that they fall on the same day.
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by Emerald Member on May. 11, 2013 at 9:16 PM
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My kids grandparents would be hurt and confused if one of us were to show up withOUT the kids. I don't undrerstamd why he wouldn't take them with him.
by on May. 11, 2013 at 9:18 PM
Rain check for a quite day later.
by on May. 11, 2013 at 9:19 PM

Why can't he take the children with, I am sure his mom would love to see her grandchildren for a few hours. 

Shari, wife to John since April 1988, Mom to Heather (Jan. 1977) she is mom to five(3boys, 2 girls), Nyssa(April 1989) Michaela(August 1994) and four cats

by ☆Mrs.Winchester☆ on May. 11, 2013 at 9:20 PM
Tell him to take the kids. I thought moths day was a day for families to spend together and show appreciation to their mom, not for the mom to ignore the family.
by Platinum Member on May. 11, 2013 at 9:20 PM
I'm going to say the same thing everyone else has said why doesn't he take the kids with him?
by on May. 11, 2013 at 9:20 PM

Send the kids with him. Buckle them in the car for him. Have fun at grandmas!

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