Because the assholes like the ones on cafemom made me feel ashamed to participate in sports or other similar activities while I was only slightly chubby.
After a while I was teased so much for trying to do things when I had a bit of a tummy, that I just sat in my house, terrified to go out.
I developed severe anxiety attacks, I started to wear big, baggy, dark clothes and I stopped smiling or looking people in the eye. I opted out of all the sports and activities I had loved only months before puberty hit.
These changes in my personality had to do 100% with the way I was treated by judgmental skinny people.
Today these deep fears still plague me. Everytime I get motivated to walk or run or jog or swim or join a gym I have anxiety attacks and a renewed depression settles in, because I know that no matter what I do I will always be humiliated until I look exactly like YOU.
I know you will tell me to just get over it and be strong, but I would like you to hold back and just examine what I have said here.
Making an issue out of weight is NEVER helpful. Making people of any age feel less worthy because of the number of fat cells on their body is the lazy way out of making change.
The entire culture of America and other countries like us needs to change before we can blame individuals. I stand by that statement.
My point is, think before you speak, if you actually WANT to make a change. Think before you even give a dirty look. You might ruin someone's chance of being healthy and happy while you're trying to do the exact opposite.
*So, you're saying that because I blame others, then those people never did anything wrong?
THIS IS WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT! You can't look past the fact that I'm overweight to address the actual problem!
You always blame the victim, causing obesity to perpetuate.
America doesn't stand a chance against a majority like you.
* When I speak with a therapist who acknowledges my pain and the treatment I have received from others I feel 100% renewed in my desires to be my true and best self.
That is when I feel more inclined to be more active.
My entire point was that kindness breeds productive behavior.
The responses here are simply a reflection of the ugliness of the human race, so eager to place blame on anyone but themselves.
You are cruel, unkind people who are, like I already said, NOT bettering mankind and NOT fostering change.
You will only create more bitter, unhappy, suicidal people.
Please, PLEASE change your opinions regarding this topic because more girls fall into my cycle.
Your opinions don't hold up to reality. Telling people what to think and feel does not make it happen. You have to lovingly encourage their best self.