I'm divorced. I have a protective order against my ex husband. He lives with his parents. They have DS every friday-sunday which is more than is stated for visitation in the divorce agreement. I send him over every weekend to be nice, not that I have any reason to be I just can't help it. He enjoys spending time with his grandpa (not his dad so much)
Anyway. I already told them Friday when they picked him up that I wasn't working this evening or tomorrow and I wanted him home so I could spend today with him when I got off work. You know, as it's Mother's Day and all. They understood that
I got home from work and received a text from DS's grandpa -
"We was going to take **** (DS's grandma) out for dinner at 5, will bring James home after that"
My first thought was WTF I already told them I wanted him home to spend MOTHER'S DAY with MY SON. It's not grandparents day and it's not father's day. It's freaking mother's day. I'm not spending this holiday without my son. This is my day, not theirs. I spend practically every holiday without my son because they have big family outings and my family really doesn't have outings together to celebrate holidays. So I was not budging on this one.
This is what I sent back-
"Oh. Was hoping to spend the evening with him since it's mother's day and all...."
He sent back -
"What time would u like to have him"
I sent back -
"Anytime. I'm home rest of the evening."
It's been a half an hour. And no return message... They better bring him back home soon or I will be livid. I think not even asking me but telling me they were going to take him out to dinner and not bring him home until late, when they knew I wanted him home, was rude and disrespectful. But I dont' expect anything less out of them.
For all of you saying I should have told them what time I wanted him home - I did. Friday. When they picked him up. I told them what time I would be home from work and told them I wanted him home so I could spend the rest of the day with him. They said okay then right about the time they knew I'd be getting home surprised me with the text that they'd decided to change plans - without asking me. They told me they would have him home this evening. That shit doesn't fly. Yeah maybe I sounded passive and whatever, but I do my best not to get into arguments with them. They're the only ones I trust to pick up and drop off DS to and from visitation with his father. And they supervise the visitation. I said "anytime" in my reply to let them know that I was home and they could bring him now.
They said they'll have him home in 20 mins.