HAHA BioMom got burrrrned by her own daughter!! **UPDATE**
I'm sorry but I have to laugh because BioMom made an ass out of herself last night.
Dh has had custody since DSD was 3. And I've been a part of her life for almost that long.
Her BioMom is very inconsistant and has actually disappeared for over a year at a time on 2 different occasions and gives no explination to DSD just shows up like nothing happened.
Anyway she called last night (as usual) and started buggin DSD right off about "did you make any projects at school" blah blah blah hinting at mother's day. Finally DSD said that she made a project at school for ME for mother's day!! I was so flattered!! I didn't expect anything and I think its so sweet that she would make me something!!
BioMom is mad now...she got off the phone immediately. I don't feel sorry for her one bit...this is what happens when you abandon your child and leave it up to other people to raise them. Eventually the kids realize that you kind of suck.
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to all the mother's out there...whether you're biomom's, step mom's foster mom's or something in between..if you're the one there taking care of the kids daily then you're a mom and even if no one says it you are MUCH appreciated!!!
I have never once said anything bad about biomom and we do NOT talk badly about her in this house. I have not heard her talk badly about her mom either. I don't think she did this out of anger towards her mom...I think she did it because She's around me every day and I play the "mom role" so it made more sense in her mind to make me a present than a woman she never sees.
I refuse to make her feel bad about her decision...if she wants to make her mom something she can we never told her not to. But I will not FORCE her to make her mom something just so her mom doesn't feel bad.
I'm confused by a lot of the comments stating that my step daughter was being disrepsectful. I don't understand how NOT making her a present is disrespectful. Her mother never would have known she hadn't made her anything if she hadn't harrassed her about it on the phone. In my opinion that was out of line...if you receive a present you say thank you. You don't ask "what did you get me" thats just rude and I find THAT disrespectful. I should also mention that my step daughter made something for her grandmother as well...so she absolutely made the choice to leave her mother out and I won't make her feel like she did something wrong
Oh...and her bio mom has 2 other kids too..she doesn't have custody of them either and hasn't seen either of them in over 8yrs..so keep telling me how I'm being "mean" to her. Don't feel bad for her...feel bad for the kids she's abandoned and were raised by step parents, foster parents and grand parents (not dh's kids but we tried to get custody)