I can't believe they acted like this, they should be happy for us
MIL always does a Mother's Day brunch right after church. We went over with a couple dishes (it is always potluck) a gift for MIL and some exciting news, I am pregnant again, 10 weeks. This is our 4th baby, our children are 7, 5 and almost 3. We are super excited, as with the other 3, I got pregnant the first month we started trying though we like to wait until 10 weeks to let people know, including our own children, who we told this morning before church.
Anyway, we were so excited so share the news and it was great that Mother's Day fell within the time frame we ready to tell people. We shared our news over brunch wih DH's family. We expected everyone to be happy for us and instead MIL gave us this look that could kill. DH's aunt was there and we know that she has been trying for years to get pregnant and has had many miscarriages, she even asked at one point, I think about a year ago, if I would be willing to surrogate for her, which I declined. She is MIL's sister but she is much younger, I think she is about 35-40, MIL even says she is more like a DD to her then a sister (MIL doesn't have any DD only 3 sons).
His aunt looked at me in discust and threw her drink, orange juice in my face, called me a selfish cunt (yes, in front of my children) and ran out. MIL looked at us and said "do you really think that was appropriate?" At first I thought maybe she thought the announcement was in poor taste because of DH's aunt's inability to have children. DH glared back at his mother, told the kids to get up and we were leaving and on our way out, MIL stopped us. She said "a year ago, you told her no to being a surrogate because you didn't want to do it and now you are having MORE of your own". I told her it wasn't being pregnant again that I didn't want, it was being pregnant, giving birth and then having to hand the baby over. Then she lost it, she told me that she thought it was that I just didn't want to go through pregnancy again and that's why she understood but she said she can not understand why, if I am willing to go through pregnancy, why I won't do it to help her sister who has tried for years and years and lost so many babies. She also told me that I am a selfish little bitch for not helping a member of DH's family get the one thing she wants and instead I having more for myself.
DH told his mother that I have every right to not want to surrogate for someone and still want more children and that I am not a baby factory for his aunt and that it that is how she handles not getting her way, maybe it is a good thing she can't have any children.
His mother called his phone a few minutes after we left asking us to come back. He said that until she is ready to come to me and beg my forgiveness, she won't be seeing us or the kids and we won't be coming to anything that his aunt is coming to.
Anyway, we just got back from my mom's house were my family was excited enough for both families. DH told me he is glad that at least one side of the family can be happy for us.
Thanks for reading, I really needed to vent and now I feel a lot better.