I live in Tx, where there is no legal seperation. But my young husband has decided he needed one. So he moved to his moms house, 3 weeks ago. We've done some communicating but mainly i'm trying to let him have his space. I hate it, of course, i think he is being weak and dramatic. He is claiming he's tried and i disagree. So many things are coming up and i'm jsut listening because i cant believe he thinks he has tried talking to me. The man doesnt talk to anyone, yet believes he tried talking to me. He has never sat me down and said "honey, i need to talk to you about something". I have done that, but he cant even tell me that despite 100% complaining and bitching about his job, he loves it and its fulfilling. We are kind of in an odd situation. We've been together 5 years, dated for 2 and married for 3. we have 2 yr old twins and a 1 yr old. The twins are honeymoon babies. Odd because we dont know anyone else with as many kids as us in short time frames as young as us.
My grandmother passed away yesterday morning. We were very close, but I am not very upset about it anymore. I know she really missed my Grandfather and she was in a lot of pain going through cancer. I asked my husband to spend the night with me last night. He said no. I asked why and he said because we are seperated and he cant give me the love and support i need. Even though I understand what he is saying, it hurts. It hurts more than my grandma passing. We have ben there for each other through losing family before, no matter what our situation was at the moment. He has been going to bars with his friends, he got a DWI on thursday and he called me. I didnt say anything but ask if he wanted to stay or get bailed out. He picked bail, so I called my MIL and I got his bail set, got his car out of impound and sent it to the mechanic. I picked him up from downtown at midnight with our kids in the car and he stayed with us. I held him and let him vent about how it happened and how its impacted him. I held him while he cried from frustration. You might think that I babied him but remember, I'm trying to keep my husband because through better or worse I love him. Normally I would want to leave him there for his sentance and tell him hes a dumbass and this is what he gets. But...we are in a delicate situation and I went with loving wife instead.
My dad has cancer, my grandma passed away from suffering through cancer, my husband wants to leave me. I dont know how i got up this morning. I am at my breaking point, i just need some relief.
This has a lot of random information, its not the whole story.