I have an 18 year old son that thinks that I am just a family friend. I had him when I was 14 and decided to have an open adoption. Through the years I have seen him at cookouts and birthdays. I get school pictures and have gone to all his school plays and anything else I could go to. His parents are great about letting me into their lives. Well they came over last night without him because they wanted to chat with me. They told me that after his graduation from HS in a week that they were going to tell him he was adopted. I knew that they were going to do this but I didn't think they would do it that day! And now I am so nervous. I am going to both his graduation and his graduation party with my husband, not his father and our kids. I hope he isn't angry with me for my decision. I only wanted to do the best for him.
FYI his father is aware of him but never wanted anything to do with him other than an occasional picture. My husband knows he is mine as well and is very understanding about it.