Ss needs me. He is very bonded to me, and he gets really upset when he can't find me. It's not the first time he's had a mini meltdown. Once when he was 2 1/2, I was in the hospital and dh wouldn't bring him to see me. Ss has gotten very upset over not being able to find me ever since. If I go to the store, he always wants to come. Leaving him at school was a challenge for the first few months. He just needs me sometimes. He is never that way over DH, biomom, or stepdad.
Later on we were in the car and SS said he thought he was going to be sick. Well, I told dh to pull over and he didn't. So I slapped his arm and told him again, and he just slowed down. So I yelled at him and was like "pull over the car right now!" Finally, he did and I got back to SS just in enough time to open the back door and have him get sick all over himself, AND the front of my pants.
So right there on the side if the road I took off my shirt to clean SS up with (didn't have anything else) and then got him changed (thankfully I had an outfit in the car because I keep one for each kid for emergencies) so SS had something clean to wear.
When I had the car and SS all cleaned up, DH asks SS for a hug. SS says, "but I want my Katie!" Dh just gives me a dirty look and says "see, he always wants you! I had to punish him for it earlier."
I just told SS to hug dad, and then helped him into his car seat and climbed in the back next to him so I'd be close if he needed me.
Anyway, point is obviously the poor dude wasn't feeling well today. Sick babies need loving! Of course he needed me. I'm so mad at dh for trying to make him feel like that was wrong.
Sorry, I needed a vent. Of course SS wants me when I'm the one caring for him. Maybe if DH ever did anything for his son, he'd ask for him more often.
Oh, and SS told me sorry for throwing up on me. DH laughed, glared at me, and said "that's her job." I just grabbed SS and hugged him and said "oh it's okay little dude. That's why I'm here, to take care if you when you need it. I'll clean up as good as new when we get home."