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So my friend calls me tonight telling me that she was raped. I rushed over to her house and see if she wanted to go to the DR. and make a report to the police. She tells me she is scared because they won't believe her. So she tells me her story.

She was at this party with her guy friend, she is known to be a big flirt, she will flirt with anyone and i have always told her that one day it will get you in trouble it is not the perfect world that we would like it to be. She never listens, well tonight she was doing her thing but this time she takes it too far. She starts kissing on this guy and telling him she wants to take him in the room just doing whatever she can to get a rise out of him. I mean grabbing all over him she leads him to the room and starts dancing for him and kissing on him doing everything so when he finally gets down to sleep with her she tells him no but from what she said she was on top of him and he just stuck it in and just went for it.

By this time I am mad at her because I know the guys she is crying rape on and he is not like that he has not been with too many girls he is kinda shy and has had a huge cruss on her since the beginning of school. I told her she needed to take responsibility for this because you instated this and at the very last second right as he is about to put it in you want to stop. She gets mad at me saying that he violated her and I am like you just about raped him yourself. I told her one of these days all this flirting and stuff will bite you in the butt. and I just left. I can't be friends with someone like this she is calling me as I am writing this but enough is enough. She is about to ruin this guy because she can't keep her clothes on. I don't condone rape but if you are being stupid like this come on.


Edit:

Ok so I just got done talking with the guy and her and she made the whole thing up. From what I can gather from him and witness she tried to get him to sleep with her but he refused. He did go into the room and she gave him a bj and he left. I taked to her and she finally admitted that she was not raped but just pissed off at him becasue he would not sleep with her. Ugg Now I am never going to tak to her again.

Posted by Anonymous on May. 19, 2013 at 2:08 AM
Replies (21-30):
AdensMommy1107
by Emerald Member on May. 19, 2013 at 2:32 AM
This exactly

Quoting FoxFire363:

She has the right to say no even at the moment he is about to put it in. I do think she led him on, but it's possible she simply changed her mind, which is her right to do.
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FreelanceMommy
by on May. 19, 2013 at 2:34 AM

It doesn't matter if she slutted it up for the guy, the moment he penetrated her after she said no he became a rapist.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on May. 19, 2013 at 2:37 AM
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If it happened the way she said, then he raped her and deserves to have his life ruined. If someone says no or stop, that is what you do. To continue on is criminal. I don't care if he was just about to bust. If she says stop then he needs to stop.

Had he stopped than she would be the bitch for leading him on, right now she is the victim of rape and you are now the friend that brought her fear of telling to reality.
Your reaction is the reason people choose not to tell. She needs better friends. The kind that understand that rape is rape and no one deserves it. No matter the amount of provocative clothing or flirting.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on May. 19, 2013 at 2:40 AM
If she told him to stop because she wasn't enjoying it, then he needs to stop. If he didn't stop, he raped her.


Quoting Elle.tea.22:

Similar story.



I have a not so friend anymore who always told this guy she wanted to fuck him but never didx , made out, invited him to her parties and such. Last party she tells him to wait in her room, she shows up, puts on lingerie for him, makes out, gives him head then when they stated having sex she changed her mind cause he wasn't very good at it and she accused him of rape. Her uncles a cop so you can imagine.



She even told rm this and expected me to just go with it! It's rape cause she didn't want it... Anymore?



I get it a no is a no. A drunk yes is a no. A yes now can be a no later but just because he wasn't good? I would take if as a loss, call it a pitty fuck and never call him again! After over a year of trying to get him. Guy was a virgin we were later told. Way to ruin a man.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on May. 19, 2013 at 2:42 AM
Attitudes like yours are the reason women will never stop allowing these things to go unreported. You're a shitty friend and human being for placing blame on her. I don't care if she sucked 10 dicks that night, the moment she said no, it was rape, period. Women need to unite on this issue and she can't turn to you for support, then she needs to find new friends asap.
Elle.tea.22
by Ruby Member on May. 19, 2013 at 2:47 AM
That isn't rape in my book, sorry. She wasn't forced, she didn't say or ask him to stop and she came. If I didn't want to have sex I would say no, ask to stop , beg, scream, assault. She did nothing and just kept doing it till she got hers. I won't lie for her, him being sucky in bed isn't rape. It's just bad quality sex lol

Quoting Anonymous:

If she told him to stop because she wasn't enjoying it, then he needs to stop. If he didn't stop, he raped her.




Quoting Elle.tea.22:

Similar story.





I have a not so friend anymore who always told this guy she wanted to fuck him but never didx , made out, invited him to her parties and such. Last party she tells him to wait in her room, she shows up, puts on lingerie for him, makes out, gives him head then when they stated having sex she changed her mind cause he wasn't very good at it and she accused him of rape. Her uncles a cop so you can imagine.





She even told rm this and expected me to just go with it! It's rape cause she didn't want it... Anymore?





I get it a no is a no. A drunk yes is a no. A yes now can be a no later but just because he wasn't good? I would take if as a loss, call it a pitty fuck and never call him again! After over a year of trying to get him. Guy was a virgin we were later told. Way to ruin a man.

ReachtotheStars
by Silver Member on May. 19, 2013 at 2:51 AM
Quoting hautemama83:

Alrighty then. I'm not totally sure what to say about all that.
Im with her
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on May. 19, 2013 at 2:57 AM
So many of you are in the mindset of " I would fight back......", have NO idea about being in that situation. You never know how you will truly react when you're pinned down against your will. When I was raped I had no choice but to do everything he said, saying no would have gotten me beaten. So I guess according to some of you, I should have fought back against him....hmmm right. Blaming this chic in this situation is WHY rape has such a high non report stat. Way to unite ladies...
Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on May. 19, 2013 at 3:18 AM

No one is going to agree with us but i think she was the wrong one too. I believe a lot of women stand on the edge of graves they dug the self and form excuses when they fall in.

scribemommeg
by on May. 19, 2013 at 3:24 AM

Okay wait wait wait. She went from dancing and kissing to being on top of him in such a manner that he was able to "just stick it in" and go for it. So she was at least partially unclothed for this then right? Either that or she was doing the all skirt no panties thing. Either way going from dancing and kissing to him just sticking it in....that skipped some levels quickly.

Is she willing to do a rape kit at the hospital? If in fact it was rape and forced on her (I say if because of course I wasn't there. only the two of them were) the rape kit would show evidence of tearing, violence, and other signs of forceable rape. If she is willing to do a rape kit then fine. If she refuses the rape kit I woudl ask her why. The "they won't believe me" is fine for a reason to not tell cops, but to not do the rape kit itself...that's a different matter. Did she shower already? Was there any physical evidence of bruising or violence that she took pictures of or asked you to take pics of? Did she wash the clothes she had on that would have evidence? All of these things play into the accusation of rape.

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