But I can't seem to get DH to get on board with it. He wants to exhaust all of our other options to conceive a child of "our own" before he considers adopting. However, as acceptable as it is for me to be constantly poked and prodded and have invasive procedures done to MAYBE finally be able to conceive and carry to term, he refuses to go have a simple sperm analysis done.
We have been trying for four years. We have had two miscarriages. They have not been able to find any thing wrong with me, as of yet, that could explain why I have such a difficult time being able to get pregnant and carry a happy, healthy child to term.
All we want is to be parents. It has been all we (more specifically, he) have wanted from the other since we first started dating. While it would be great to be able to experience pregnancy and labor and seeing a child that we created, I am to the point that I just want to be a mommy so bad. I don't care if the child I raise comes from my being or another woman's.
I would much rather do adoption than go through IVF, etc, etc. I would feel much better being able to give a child a nice, loving home to grow up in that wouldn't otherwise be able to experience that.
It is quite a mixed situation. I wish I could get him to agree to just adopt, but I understand his desire to be able to pass on his genes. And goodness, would we make some cute children!
For any mommas that were stuck between TTC and adopting, how did you choose?
For the adoptive mommas, how did your husband come around to wanting to adopt?