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I really don't get all these women who HATE sex

Anonymous
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I mean I don't want it everyday or anything but I DO like it and insist on having it in my marriage. Ok we are normal though like twice per week nothing crazy. On this website it seems like there's one extreme or another. Either it's I don't like sex and can live without it or we do it everyday. I reall don't get not wanting sex though. That's cray cray.
Posted by Anonymous on May. 19, 2013 at 7:37 PM
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Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Ruby Member on May. 19, 2013 at 7:40 PM
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I notice that a lot of the posts where they don't want it there are a few trends:

1.  She is tired and stressed.  It is hard to want sex when you are very fatigued or burdened.
2.  She is self concious of her own body.
3.  Her DH or SO has lost their looks or is failing at hygiene. 

For DH and I, we make sex and intimacy a priority.  We won't leave the house filthy, but if I'm giong to be too worn out for sex it's OK to do the dishes in the morning instead of staying up at night for them.  I'm self conscious, but Dh helps me through that.  At my worst of times, I'll just slip on some sexy lingerie.  And Dh still has his good looks, but I did kind of lose interest when he had his braces on.  He couldn't kiss the same and all, but we found our own ways to get around that and focus on what I do like.

Pink.Sunshine.
by on May. 19, 2013 at 7:43 PM
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Every individual is different. My sex drive isn't your sex drive. My age isn't your age, some people have chronic illnesses. Some people have zero sexual desire/attraction since birth. What is there not to understand? Must everyone be exactly like you?

Hannahluvsdogs
by Ruby Member on May. 19, 2013 at 7:43 PM
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Some people don't want or enjoy it because they were sexually abused at a young age.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 19, 2013 at 7:46 PM

bump

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 19, 2013 at 7:51 PM
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I know not everyone is like me but why would u expect the person to stay married to u not look at porn and just be ok with no sex. Really??


Quoting Pink.Sunshine.:

Every individual is different. My sex drive isn't your sex drive. My age isn't your age, some people have chronic illnesses. Some people have zero sexual desire/attraction since birth. What is there not to understand? Must everyone be exactly like you?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on May. 19, 2013 at 7:55 PM
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I agree with this.  Everyone is different.  To be perfectly honest, my husband and I have been together 10 years and we have not had sex in 2 years and 4 months because I'm on meds that totally wipe out my "desire" for sex.  He has been very understanding and does not demand sex.  He does look at porn and I'm ok with that.  He has even asked me to watch him while he gets himself off........not a problem.  The great thing is, he still loves me and would never think about cheating.  I'm sure a lot of you will say oh yeah, he's cheating and you just don't know about it but I can assure you, he's not cheating


Quoting Pink.Sunshine.:

Every individual is different. My sex drive isn't your sex drive. My age isn't your age, some people have chronic illnesses. Some people have zero sexual desire/attraction since birth. What is there not to understand? Must everyone be exactly like you?



Fallaya
by on May. 19, 2013 at 7:56 PM
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I have a weaker sex drive than my man. It doesn't mean that I don't enjoy it...it just means I'm not revving to go 24/7. I don't need it that much.
Pink.Sunshine.
by on May. 19, 2013 at 7:56 PM
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Well that's not my story, so I really do not know. Porn is disgusting, and it's not my thing

Quoting Anonymous:

I know not everyone is like me but why would u expect the person to stay married to u not look at porn and just be ok with no sex. Really??


Quoting Pink.Sunshine.:

Every individual is different. My sex drive isn't your sex drive. My age isn't your age, some people have chronic illnesses. Some people have zero sexual desire/attraction since birth. What is there not to understand? Must everyone be exactly like you?





       

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 19, 2013 at 7:57 PM
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so you expect my sex drive at 45 to be like yours at 20 and 30. Really? I hate sex. I hate the big ass mess it leaves. It's digusting and semen smells horrid. I hate that puddle that's left on the bed afterwards too. I'd rather not have dirty sheets 6 days a week.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on May. 19, 2013 at 7:58 PM
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When I was on the pill, I never wanted it.  Since I've been off it, I can't get enough!  Its not that we are TTC either, hubby had a vasectomy after our youngest was born.  I'm 30, so not really young or really old.

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