*Update- Thank you all for your insight and stories. I wish I could hug each one of you! What I ended up doing is borrowing some of your stories and showing them to her. She picked out the ones that sounded the most like how she felt. We had a long talk about how we could adjust some of the imediate issues at home and we have a working plan :-) We have started jogging together in the morningss again too! This has been something we both missed doing and have found the renewed priorety in it. She will start formal therapy at the end of her summer visit with her dad and in the mean time has an hour a week with the school counselor. Again, thank you all for helping my daughter and I get on the same page, I couldn't have done this without you!
Also, she was shocked at how deeply cutting has affected some of you into your adult lives. This helped open a dialog about the struggles of adulthood.
It has come to my attention that my dd is cutting. I am working on getting her some help, but in the mean time I really don't know what to say to her. She has cut her arms, shallow slices all up and down her forearms. Some are healing and some are fresh so this has been going on for at least a week now. I can't wrap my mind around why. Please help me understand what this is doing for my dd :-(