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Mother Arrested for Assaulting 11yo - What would you have done in her shoes?

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Mother Arrested for Assaulting 11-Year-Old Girl But We Can't Blame Her

by Kiri Blakeley

A mother was arrested inside her daughter's school after allegedly assaulting an 11-year-old girl whom her daughter says was bullying her. Attifa Brown was charged with a slew of things that make her sound like a terrorist -- including "terroristic threats." Which makes me wonder what that entails exactly because I have the feeling well all make "terroristic threats" occasionally when we're pissed off! Anyway, the mom says she had good reason to confront the 11-year-old -- because she was beating up her daughter, who even has a face bruise to show for it. She denies she assaulted her, however.

Videotape caught the incident inside the school and the alleged bully's mom, Bobby Webster, denies her child is a bully and says about the other mom:

The tape showed this lady over my daughter for minutes, poking her in the face, pulling her hair and beating her.

Well, yikes, if there's videotape showing THAT, then the mom is in trouble. Says Lt. John Walker of the Philadelphia police:

The problem here is that we have a 26-year-old mother who has no reason to approach an 11-year-old child, so her credibility as far as I'm concerned is shot.

No offense, officer, but I beg to differ that she had "no reason" to approach an 11-year-old child. If the child was assaulting her child and complaints to the school brought no action (as they often don't) then I can't blame the mom for getting in the little girl's face. Now laying hands on her (if she did)? That's another story.

But what is a mother to do? Mothers are sick of this. As this mom, who denies she touched the girl, says: "I'm human."

The right way to go about this would be to report incidents to the school. To document bruises or other evidence. To call the police.

But what if they do nothing???!!!

Then, yeah, I don't blame a mom for going all mama bear and getting in a kid's face. Shamefully, I would do it too. Does this teach your kid that violence is the only way to stop violence? Not if done correctly. Not if you stand tall over that bully, look her straight in the eye, point a finger and say, calmly, "You are not to touch my child again."

And if THAT doesn't work? Then what? I wish I had the answer. Laying hands on another child will just get you in trouble, like this woman is now. Now she needs to hire a lawyer, she might lose her job, might even go to jail.

Schools, wake up. Zero tolerenace for bullying should mean, at the very least, a conference with all parties. Separating the girls into different classes. Eyes on both parties. Something! And as for moms who insist their little snowflakes aren't bulliers, sit down with your child anyway. Maybe they ARE. Talk to them. Discipline them for god's sake!

At least this mom didn't go to school with a chain.

What do you do when your child is being bullied? Is your child's school helpful?

by on May. 20, 2013 at 8:49 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 20, 2013 at 3:31 PM
bahahahaha!!! It's not as easy as "just walk away!" That never works and it sure as shit doesn't stop the bullying.


Quoting victoriangavin:

I've been bullied since kindergarten.  The same girl bullied me from third grade through 6th while the school did nothing, they told me to walk away. So in 6th when she used karate on me I attempted to fight back and missed, the school suspended me for 7 days.  My mom grabbed the principal by his throat, lifted him off the floor and slammed him against the wall in the office while she told him to walk away.  H retired after that year  because of my mom, he spent the rest of the year hiding from my mom whenever she came to the school.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 20, 2013 at 3:39 PM

I would never put my hands on someone else kid, no matter what. My daughters are 10 & 12. They haven't experienced bullying, but if they did my kids know that the are to put the bully in their place. Yep. I taught my girls that if someone puts their hands on them....they have every right to lay them out. They are never to hit first, but if someone touches them, they are to fight back. Bullies prey on the weak. Usually when the bullied child stands their ground the bully no longer has power and will back off. 

Nicoleb9
by Emerald Member on May. 20, 2013 at 3:43 PM
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Because everyone's more worried with being PC and with the rights of the bad guys now.
Because teachers and school staff no longer have real authority.
Because education and schools have been devalued, leaving school staff jaded.
Because real discipline is frowned upon now.
Because this generation doesn't know what real consequences are. Why do you think everyone freaks out when there's a YouTube video showing some real discipline? It's because people don't like seeing a snowflake put in his/her place.


Quoting Anonymous:

I hate bullies. Why is it such an issue?


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im_not_trollin
by on May. 20, 2013 at 3:49 PM
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 I as an adult would not have done that. I would have gone to the school board or the police and taught my daughter how to defend herself if needed. But I could not bring myself to "assault" an 11 year old. There are other ways... The squeeky wheel gets the grease, you HAVE to be persistent with the school and police.

MrsApple
by Gold Member on May. 20, 2013 at 3:50 PM


Absolutely.What she did was uncalled for.She's an adult,she's suppose to act like it!

Quoting faire_jour:

So her child was assaulted, so she assaulted another child? That is ridiculous. Hitting people doesn't solve anything!



Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 20, 2013 at 3:55 PM
Schools should maybe start dealing with these bullies then this wouldn't happen. I would be just as frustrated if I were in this woman's shoes I would never sit back and let that happen to my child but I wouldn't beat on the bully either since its a child. I would have handled it different but with the same level of pissed off and directed at the principal first!
Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 20, 2013 at 4:34 PM
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 You are 100% correct.

Quoting Nicoleb9:

Because everyone's more worried with being PC and with the rights of the bad guys now.
Because teachers and school staff no longer have real authority.
Because education and schools have been devalued, leaving school staff jaded.
Because real discipline is frowned upon now.
Because this generation doesn't know what real consequences are. Why do you think everyone freaks out when there's a YouTube video showing some real discipline? It's because people don't like seeing a snowflake put in his/her place.


Quoting Anonymous:

I hate bullies. Why is it such an issue?


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 20, 2013 at 4:45 PM

The school my child goes to brushes off bullying.  "Oh, they're just kids" "Kids do those things", yeah when your child comes home crying, and refusing to go to school every day, something more is going on.  Clearly, they are not doing enough.  Kids are smart, they don't bully in front of teachers, and the parents of bullies are in denial. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 20, 2013 at 4:50 PM

If there was a video that showed a mom beating up some eleven year old, I can almost promise you that shit would be all over the internet.  Poor little brat most likely got told and couldn't handle it so she lied about getting hit. 

byoung31599
by on May. 20, 2013 at 4:52 PM
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This is my answer! Word for word. She was the adult and she should have acted like it.

Quoting im_not_trollin:

 I as an adult would not have done that. I would have gone to the school board or the police and taught my daughter how to defend herself if needed. But I could not bring myself to "assault" an 11 year old. There are other ways... The squeeky wheel gets the grease, you HAVE to be persistent with the school and police.



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