My dh and I have been together a really long time. 22 years. For the past 22 years I have rarely worn a bra. Its just me and thats how I'm comfortable. Most of the time you can't tell because of the type of shirts i wear. I do put one one when i feel i have to. Anytime i have to "dress up" if i'm going to school functions or i'm going to be around kids and its noticible. This has been me since the day dh and i met. Out of no where last night he decides its not good that i don't and he tells me that I have to. which led to a discussion on if he has the right to tell me how to dress as my husband. I told him i"m 38 years old and old enough to decide what i wear. He is not my dad. I don't have one and my mother is passed. How i dress is my perogative. I don't tell him how to dress. The other day he left the house dressed for work and came home in a tank top. All kinds of muscles showing. Maybe i don't want him flaunting his muscles. He of course only sees his side of the argument.