Dh and I are currently raising his sisters twins. They are 12 and taken away from her for drugs. We haven't officially adopted them and never will but their birth mother has never tried to get them back and doesn't visit them. I receive money from the state for them but put every single cent in a savings account for them because when they turn 16 they will need vechiles and help with college expenses and will need that money more then. We are ttc for our first and going through fertility treatments. We have no living biological children. I found out today that sil is getting the child she had custody of taken away. This child has severe emotional and mental issues. She's staying with another family member right now but they want me to take her in. I'm not sure if I can do it. Im a sped teacher but shes past my level of expertise. Our house only has four bedrooms so if we get pregnant, we wont have room and it will be tight financially. Another relative says he will do it if we don't, but doesn't want to. I really want a biological child of my own but I'm afraid we can't handle 4+ kids, including one with severe special needs. Am I selfish for thinking about myself?
Add: The four, almost five year old is extremely violent, almost non verbal, breaks things, attacks animals, is not potty trained and puts poop on the walls. I teach high school sped so I would have no idea what to do with her. I barely see her or sil so I don't really know her. I've had the 12 year olds since they were 8.
on May. 22, 2013 at 3:15 PM