I'm starting to hate my son.... bash if you must idk at this point edit
I'm so sick of his behavior. he seems to only do stupid sit during school hours. I can't stand picking him up anymore in the afternoon because I know that I'm the mom the whole class hates. I'm the mom that takes up the teachers time to explain what happened that day causing her to ignore them to send their children out. I hate having to constantly come up with incentives to keep him good, because frankly its a daily process and its exhausting. I'm tired of ignoring my other two children, who are not horrible. one of which has not had a single mark and the other had one for not getting get agenda signed.
today he gets in trouble for sticking his butt in someone's face. like while they were standing in line he bent over, put his butt up next to her and made a fart sound. are you kidding me?? mind you he hasn't watched any tv, played any games, played with any toys, nothing for months. he does get to go outside and play but no toys, trampoline, bikes, scooters nothing. I've stripped his bedroom down to pain clothing, one dresser, his bed and bedding. nothing else. I am at a loss here. I'm so pissed.
at school our newest incentive send to be taking away markets for the first offence, taking recess away for offense two and emailing me to go visit him during offense three. any thereafter are immediately sent to the principal.
sometimes his behavior varies from silly things to moderate behavior and some serious ones like rolling around on the floor, not following directions, stepping on others fingers, breaking pencils and crayons, talking, running indoors, playing, back talking, being rude, stabbing other with plastic utensils, running away from the teacher during recess, calling the teacher a variety of names ect.
btw he is seven in first grade. these problems were not an issue in kindergarten. just this year.
I feel like a horrible parent. like I've failed him and I can't make things better. I hate this feeling and honestly wish my living, caring sweet little boy were back. I don't know where I've failed:(
bash if you must.... but know that you can't treat me down any lower than I am now
So i had no idea that this post was going to turn out like this and i just want to say thanks. i could have sworn when i vented on here that i would have been bashed to hell but thankfully i wasn't. I think that I am going to talk to his dad tonight to see about maybe getting him tested to see what they think is going on with him without using medication. i am right now as i type this looking into natural methods to deal with children that may have adhd/add. i don't think that this is an autism/asburgers this but then again i am just a mom and i don't really know. his dad is also really against medication but at the point that we are at...maybe it should be considered.
That being said I WILL NOT spank my child. if you read the behavior problems that he is having you can clearly see that he is starting to get downright mean....by stepping on others fingers and using the utensil to injure students. while i am told that he didn't break the skin on that child i think that he should have gotten a harsher punishment. i think that the school is letting me deal with things that he does so early in the day and that is complete bullshit. I from here on out will not be handling anything he does at school. i think that by punishing him isn't doing anything but creating havoc on our relationship and distancing him from me. that isn't fair to him. as of today he will have all his things back and his slate will be clean. the only time i will discipline him is for things he might do at home. however, he usually doesn't get in trouble then. one thing that i will mention is that i don't allow my children to watch television during the school week. we are so busy with sports after school and homework that it leaves us with no time.
I am at my breaking point with him and i think that if i can get his dad to agree to let me test him it would help out tremendously. i can't guarantee anything but given the fact that i am going to look into natural methods and diet changes it might help. I will not be giving him medication.
BTW i emailed his teacher and asked what exactly she did for his punishment. she "took his markers (for the first strike) moved his clip(from green to yellow) and took half of his recess away! that is what she did for his behavior yesterday of sticking his behind in another students face
again thank you ladies soooo much for all the support that you have given me and a lot of information that i honestly took from it.