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Came out to my brother and this is what he said...... EDIT I told my dad

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I told my brother I'm bisexual. Haven't told anyone else. Waited for his reply and.....

"I am proud of you for being true to yourself and I am so happy that you felt comfortable enough with me to tell me! "

I love my brother so much :) He is just freaking awesome


EDIT

I was talking to my brother and he said ""That reminds me. I would never tell anyone, even dad, but if you wanted to tell dad about your orientation I don't think you would regret it. He is very open minded. He considers himself agnostic and it would probably feel good to have the acceptance of at least one parent. :) "

I knew that was true, and took that to heart and told my dad tonight and asked him if it bothered him.... He told me hell no and said he was proud of me for being comfortable enough to tell him. :) Then he sent me links to two churches local to where I live that accept everyone with no discrimination. He said "Kid, I'd love you if you were trisexual. It doesn't matter at all. You are you, regardless of whom you love." His acceptance brought me to tears - but happy tears :)

Just wanted to share :D


Posted by Anonymous on May. 23, 2013 at 8:26 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 24, 2013 at 3:46 AM

Ikr? Lol.

I consider myself bisexual because I've always been attracted to women, and now that I've been with one, it's definitely confirmed lol. I wasn't with a woman sexually until this year, but I've always been attracted to both. Married a man and divorced him because he was abusive. I'm still attracted to men, but personally I like being with a woman better lol.

Also I've been in love with my best friend for over a year. She doesn't know, but I think she feels the same way. She lives in WV though and I live in IN. Wouldn't work unless I moved and that just isn't feasible to my situation right now :(

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:



Wow how can you say she is not bi sexual? Do you know her do you know how she feels?


I am bi sexual, my first sexual experiences were with females. I love the feel of a woman's body against mine. Yet I married a man. I have been with 2 girls and my husband. I consider myself bi.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on May. 24, 2013 at 3:46 AM
Always be true to yourself and go with what feels right for you. I say you can't go wrong that way. Not everyone will agree with how you live your life. It's sad that your mom would disown you. But maybe she wouldn't. I know it's nerve wracking coming out to loved ones. I have never been in that situation, but friends that I have will say it's very stressful. Sometimes the things you imagine are much worse than what really happens though. I have friends that were nervous as heck to come out and thought their parents would react totally different than they did. A lot of times the parent will say they already knew. I know that's not always the case. Just don't stress out about it too much. I don't know how a mother could ever turn their back on a daughter because of orientation. I hope that never happens if you do decide to tell her though. Good luck.
Quoting Anonymous:

I'm divorced from an abusive man. While I'm still attracted to men, I'm not comfortable being in a relationship with a man right now. I've always been bi-curious though and was with a female friend, things happened... lol. I've been with her several times and enjoy it more than being with men.

Quoting Anonymous:

What makes you think you're bisexual? What experience have you had?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on May. 24, 2013 at 3:49 AM
Quoting Anonymous:



Where in WV I have family there and lived there for 10 years? Well if you don't mind me asking lol.


You could always visit each other and see where it goes from there.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 24, 2013 at 3:50 AM

She's practically disowned my brother because he doesn't have the same religious beliefs that she does and that we grew up being taught. She's Christian, he's an Atheist. She's gone so far as to block him from our sister's facebook page. Anything that she doesn't agree with is "evil". I've heard her frequently put down and say disgusting remarks about people who aren't straight. She doesn't agree with it, therefore it's wrong and disgusting. I'd much rather just keep her in the dark and avoid the animosity. We already don't get along as well as I would like. My dad and stepmom are a different story. I'm sure they wouldn't care and would still love and support me just like they do now. Just nerve wracking even thinking of bringing that up lol. Plus they live in Washington State and I'm in IN, it's not like I can sit down with them face to face lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

Always be true to yourself and go with what feels right for you. I say you can't go wrong that way. Not everyone will agree with how you live your life. It's sad that your mom would disown you. But maybe she wouldn't. I know it's nerve wracking coming out to loved ones. I have never been in that situation, but friends that I have will say it's very stressful. Sometimes the things you imagine are much worse than what really happens though. I have friends that were nervous as heck to come out and thought their parents would react totally different than they did. A lot of times the parent will say they already knew. I know that's not always the case. Just don't stress out about it too much. I don't know how a mother could ever turn their back on a daughter because of orientation. I hope that never happens if you do decide to tell her though. Good luck.
Quoting Anonymous:

I'm divorced from an abusive man. While I'm still attracted to men, I'm not comfortable being in a relationship with a man right now. I've always been bi-curious though and was with a female friend, things happened... lol. I've been with her several times and enjoy it more than being with men.

Quoting Anonymous:

What makes you think you're bisexual? What experience have you had?



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 24, 2013 at 3:53 AM

Williamsburg. I think that's Virginia, not WV, but I can't remember lol. I'm planning to move next year at tax time, just haven't decided exactly where, but she really wants me to move where she is... I'm seriously considering it. She's planning to visit me here in the next couple months :) She's just trying to save the money up. I really hope she can make it :)

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:



Where in WV I have family there and lived there for 10 years? Well if you don't mind me asking lol.


You could always visit each other and see where it goes from there.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on May. 24, 2013 at 3:55 AM
Quoting Anonymous:



Well good luck, I hope it all works out.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on May. 24, 2013 at 3:56 AM

Thank you :)

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:



Well good luck, I hope it all works out.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on May. 24, 2013 at 4:02 AM
Hmmmmm probably not a good idea to bring it up to Mom at this point! Have you thought about what you would do if you really do get serious with a lady and want to get married? Would your mom's anticipated reaction hold you back? I have never had to deal with this personally, but I feel for people who have. You deserve to be happy no matter what. I do know that for sure.
Quoting Anonymous:

She's practically disowned my brother because he doesn't have the same religious beliefs that she does and that we grew up being taught. She's Christian, he's an Atheist. She's gone so far as to block him from our sister's facebook page. Anything that she doesn't agree with is "evil". I've heard her frequently put down and say disgusting remarks about people who aren't straight. She doesn't agree with it, therefore it's wrong and disgusting. I'd much rather just keep her in the dark and avoid the animosity. We already don't get along as well as I would like. My dad and stepmom are a different story. I'm sure they wouldn't care and would still love and support me just like they do now. Just nerve wracking even thinking of bringing that up lol. Plus they live in Washington State and I'm in IN, it's not like I can sit down with them face to face lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

Always be true to yourself and go with what feels right for you. I say you can't go wrong that way. Not everyone will agree with how you live your life. It's sad that your mom would disown you. But maybe she wouldn't. I know it's nerve wracking coming out to loved ones. I have never been in that situation, but friends that I have will say it's very stressful. Sometimes the things you imagine are much worse than what really happens though. I have friends that were nervous as heck to come out and thought their parents would react totally different than they did. A lot of times the parent will say they already knew. I know that's not always the case. Just don't stress out about it too much. I don't know how a mother could ever turn their back on a daughter because of orientation. I hope that never happens if you do decide to tell her though. Good luck.
Quoting Anonymous:

I'm divorced from an abusive man. While I'm still attracted to men, I'm not comfortable being in a relationship with a man right now. I've always been bi-curious though and was with a female friend, things happened... lol. I've been with her several times and enjoy it more than being with men.

Quoting Anonymous:

What makes you think you're bisexual? What experience have you had?




Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on May. 24, 2013 at 4:36 AM
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You don't need to "prove" your bi-tendencies. Sometimes bisexuality is bisexuality and other times its a transition phase to homosexuality/lesbianism. I have been in a 5+ year long m/f/f poly-fidelity triad. Now while I love both my husband and our girlfriend equally, if something were to happen to one of them my "tendencies" would sway the direction of the remaining partner as maintaining a multi partner relationship is a major balancing act... that doesn't mean that the actual inclination to be sexually aroused by both sexes will go away (obviously) just that I will have to make the conscious choice at that time to remain strictly monogamous with that one person.
mrssummerlin
by Platinum Member on May. 24, 2013 at 12:01 PM
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It's alright. They finally came around, I'm sure having your 16yr old say that to you isn't exactly expected.

It's been over 9 yrs now and we all get along great now.



I'm glad he's so supportive too, he really is a great guy. :)


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm so sorry you had to go through that :( That's why I've kept it to myself and especially haven't told my mom. That's great that your DH is supportive though :)



Quoting mrssummerlin:

Awesome he's so supportive. Wish I had been that lucky.





I "came out" to my brother and he told our entire HS. I "came out" to my parents and my mom didn't talk to me for over a year and my dad, well we won't get into that.








Just like when I told my mother I was Pagan last year... She hit me in the back of the head with a freaking hair brush and walked away.


No support the wieners.





At least my DH is supportive and understanding.


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