Mad at my grown child for making bad parenting choice. EDIT!!!
EDIT --- My DD has always been extremely against corporal punishment for children. She is a Psyche major and as recently as March spoke about her stance against spanking.
I am concerned for my Daughter. I am worried that her DH is to controlling and I want to be sure she feels and is safe. I also want to know that she truly agrees with the latest choices shes made ( not just spanking also a couple others like quitting her job which she LOVED)
My DD was not upset by me talking to her but she did seem uncomfortable ( her DH was there) so I will speak to her again.
My daughter brought my grandson over for a visit , which is something that happens maybe five times a year. She lives a bit far . I also go to her home to visit about the same amount yearly . I wish they were closer. Maybe when I retire I'll move closer to them. Anyway , My grandson kept playing rough in the living room with his cousin. My daughter told him to stop and to play in the TV room ( large carpeted finished basement ) maybe twice she did that . Well he did it again and knocked over a vase which didn't break just fell to the floor. My DD got very mad and spanked him three times on his rear end. I was livid , still am. I never spanked her and she always said she wouldn't spank either. She says that Billy (her dh) and her talked about it and decided that its what they will do because the grandson is so "hard headed and never listens" well this is a bunch of malarkey ! He's a normal active four year old ! Hes more then capable of listening but he was overly excited. She didn't even try to take him into the tv/play room or give him a moment in time out to calm down. I just know this is all Billy since he believes spanking is good parenting and what god wanted ( don't ask its all ridiculous) He's a lazy parent and I really think he gets jealous if my daughters spending time with GS even if its to give him a time out or to feed him . I tried to talk with her about this but she says shes firm on her agreement with Billy. My grandson looked heart broken and afraid. To just announce its discipline time and see him bend over made me nauseous. I am very upset about this and plan on talking to her more about it. Any thoughts? I really just needed to vent I think.